My husband doesn't want to care for my mom who's in a nursing home.
My husband does not like it that I have to care for my mom who's in a nursing home. He wants to travel and wants me to leave the care up to my sister. Part of the reason is because he sees me so emotionally damaged by going to the nursing home. I can't stand to go inside those doors. My last post was about how I had a meltdown and screamed at the staff. I haven't gone back inside yet. Tonite I called my mom and she was hysterical. Another bad day for her at the nursing home. This time a staff trying to put leg compressions on pointed her finger in my moms face and told her to be quiet. Mom my cried and I really can't stand that. The nursing home got the Dr orders wrong, they were not supposed to put them on her. They were supposed to wrap ace bandages loosley on her legs. Then they left them on from 10:00am to 6:30pm which was too long. This all happened because after my meltdown I didnt go with my sister to the Dr appt outside the nursing home. My sister takes her to a Heart Specialist and I always go too. This time I didn't go and so I didn't know what the Dr ordered. I've been caring for my Mom with my sister for 4 years. Now my husband wants to move out of the state and leave my mom in the nursing home and leave my sister with the burden. My sister has little emotion and goes along willingly with the staff. She also doesn't care if I move out of state, she never asks for me to help her. She just goes through the motions. I put flowers outside that decorate her room, kiss and hug her, talk to her like a friend, and yearn for us to live together ( which will never happen). It's heartbreaking. Do I leave the state withhusband or ask for a divorce? I'm ripped apart.