My husband and his Mom are driving me crazy!
I have been married almost 2 years, and my husband and I together for 4. His mother was diagnosed with Parkinson's and the beginning stages of Alzheimer's. She lives with us. She lived with him before we were dating but did her own thing. , he fixes her meals, her bills and tells her when to take a bath, she doesn't even bother to try anymore. I feel like this is his doing also. He says he doesn't want her to struggle, but doesn't let her do things for herself, she used to do her own hair, clean her own room now he does it all, and constantly complains about it. He also gets upset with me if i tell him about things that she does or things that happen concerning her health. I feel like i am an outsider in their world. I also do not like being alone with her because right before Christmas she got a bad bruise on her hand (she bruises easy and gets them all the time) and when he asked her what happened she said i had done it by accident. The incident she claimed it happened was 3 days earlier and he was in the room. My husband says he believes me but i feel it shouldn't even be in question. I have 3 children who all moved out so it is just me, my husband and my mother in law. I feel alone and afraid. We can't go on vacation or trips without having to plan ahead for her, and when we are away it can only be a day or 2 and he has to call at least 3 times a day. I know i am sounding selfish, but i have taken care of my siblings, my children and i thought that i would get some of my life back when they moved out, i feel cheated out of the rest of my life, because now everything we do or plan for our future revolves around her.