How do you deal with this?!
My mate and I moved into my mother's home at her request after a year and a half of careful consideration and discussion between the 3 of us. Mom was making bad decisions, the house was in disrepair and people were taking advantage of her. We gave up everything to do this. At this point we have been here for 2 years. It has grown increasingly difficult. I would guess she has dementia/Alzheimer's, but she has not been to a doctor in at least 10 years and refuses to go. She increasingly treats me with suspicion and distrust. She has ample resources and I am an equal on her bank account, POA, etc. I have put an end to the pilfering of her $ and affected the crucial repairs. Her distrust, suspicion and outright accusations towards me have increased and it's escalating. We came to help her. At her request. I feel like this is the biggest mistake I have ever made. It is ruining me. I will be surprised if it doesn't ruin my relationship with my mate. I felt that I couldn't not help her. Now I feel like I can't help her or myself. 22 years of isolation and 10 years of alcoholism have served to run everyone else out of her life. No one will be here for her unless it is to take advantage of her. I love her, care about her and want to help her. I just don't know how much more of this I can take! Where do I turn, what do I do?