How I went crazy -- A day in the life.

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Today was a normal day. I woke up, made myself a cup of coffee, gave the rabbits their breakfast, and turned on the computer to see if I had any orders. Nope, no orders. Looks like I may have to dip into my retirement savings again this month. Ah, well... I check Facebook and Aging Care to see what is going on with friends while I finish my coffee. The day begins.

Mom just got up. I join her for a few minutes while we eat some breakfast. She talks of how we need to call the foundation people to fix the problem with the floor. I tell her there is no problem now, that the foundation people have already been back three times. "No they haven't," she screams. I leave it alone. This has been our normal morning conversation for a year now. "Well, I won't call them," she says. "But you'll be sorry when the house caves down around our ears."

So I clean the rabbit room, the bedroom, and tidy up the bathroom before I go to the grocery store. At least we don't need a lot from the store today. On the way out, I check to see how the herbicide I applied to some weeds yesterday was doing. Good, some weeds were dying. I wished I could apply it to all the flower beds, but there are pesky irises all around the house. Hundreds of them everywhere. The flower beds will have to be cleared by hand. It will take hours.

I get home, get her insulin and afternoon pills ready, then eat some lunch. Then it is to the flower bed to get it cleared. It has been raining a lot, so they are overgrown badly. I leave Mom watching TV -- her normal thing to do all day.

I spend the next four hours clearing weeds from the flower bed. I need some lawn/leaf bags to put the weeds into, so come inside for a few minutes. The mail comes, so I go get it, then remember I have to put the garbage out before cooking dinner.

"Could you water the grass and new bushes, since you're not busy?" she asks. Now, it was hot outside and I was tired and sweaty. My knuckles were almost dragging the ground. I told her I had to rake the weeds up and put them in the bags. "You can't do just one thing for me!" she screams. "All you do is sit around all day and do nothing. And I ask you to do one thing. You need to get a job and stop sitting around all day."

She's yelling and her face is red like a bull, but I really do want to get all the weeds in the bag. It's just a day in the life, and I do need to get the garbage out and dinner cooked. Now, what's really crazy is that all this seems normal now to me. I never thought I would be spending my retirement years working this hard and being appreciated so little.

If you made it this far, thanks for listening. :)

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Aww, that is sweet. Love your photo avatar btw!! Too cute!

My Mom hates when we say we are sick---it is like she thinks we are faking. Maybe because I did fake a lot as a kid -hee hee. No, she cannot stand anyone relaxing. She was always on the go-so nervous and jumpy that she can't stand to see someone resting. It is strange. And annoying. But I really think it is a psychological issue with her. Like nails on a chalk board to see someone relaxing. Maybe because she can't.

I am glad your Mom let you rest. That is important!!! That is why I worry about my Dad and try to give him breaks. He needs some rest!!! Ahe wears me out and I am half his age.
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I do the bare necessities,Feed her, give her meds and set her up with a book (Thank god she can still read) or a movie. I leave the house work and order in. Thank God in the year and a half I've been doing this, I haven't gotten sick but a day or two. She loves the change in routine...she is back to Mom and I am her child again. She cant even open a can of soup for me, but she loves to tell me to rest and drink fluids....lol. I think she feels needed, even though she can't really help me, but she still likes it.
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BoniChak-you said Mish-funny, that is what I am called , too, for a nickname :0)

Do you think our sister really is sick or just not wanting to watch your Mom? That stinks either way ,really.
My husband is good about coming home early if I am sick to take care of our girl and he did sooo much to help with my Mom. But he does work and at times has to go out of town. The last time he went Out of town I was soooo sick -no other helpers for me---it is hard!!! What DO you do if you are sick? :(
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Yes Mish, thanks for asking. Sometimes I just use this site to say things "out loud". Otherwise I think I might explode some days. The sister that takes Mom a couple of lousy hours a week is "sick" again. I wish I could have a "sick" day. Just venting. Love this place and all of you...couldn't do this with out Y'all.
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You OK, BoniChak?
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God...please....just 1 day off! Just once in a while! PLEASE!!!!!!!!
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A caregivers' work is never done and often unappreciated. It's amazing what becomes normal to us. My mom isn't living with me, so I can only imagine what you must go through. My life has been put completely on hold (other than work) since my mom has been in assisted living. I go to work, stop by to visit her, go home, eat, and go to bed. On weekends, I do all her laundry and shop for her. That is my life now. This is my normal. Take care of yourself.
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I love you guys. You make my weird "normal" seem NORMAL! Nobody gets it like Y'all do.
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I'll have to come up with a good reason that I can't water the lawn this summer. :)
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JessieBelle, yeah, the psychiatrist , had me going for awhile. Not saying we won't use meds if we need to but she met my daughter 1 time and deduced that we needed to put her on Resperdal. Sometimes I think these shrinks are just high payed , legal drug dealers.

I really did enjoy your daily review. I would be very interested in hearing your experiences at the ER. Not for any morbid reasons, just that it is such a slice of life and one we all are probably going to have to or have gone through. Just saying if you ever feel like writing more about your life I would be reading it!
No pressure :0)
Hope things are better!!!

Now water the yard for goodness sake!!!!! ;0)
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