It just seems like we all our hostages to Mom.

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Mom not interested in holidays. She can't stand seeing food commercials, holiday buying commercials, neighbors enjoying the holidays... ?? She's just plain miserable 24/7 maybe a few minutes of the old mom I cherished and remember enjoying people, holidays and family.... Now it just seems to torture her and yes she is on new meds for depression..... I spend many days crying and trying to keep her feed , showered, and take her medicine....She says no to everything the mentality similiar to a 2yr old...She says she is sorry but everyday i just wish she had a few more hours of the mom I love and miss. i do get 2 days off to return to my home and husband while my disabled brother takes care of her and then hubbie takes him to our house for 2 days to get a break.. I don't know what I would do without either one of them....But it just seems like we all our hostages to mom . Have visited nursing homes were mental health would place her just doesn't seem like would do her good..I think all of the old mom would no longer be....She just wants it over and I pray the medicine works better this time and helps her to feel better. She deserves a chance to feel good again is this possible?


kateivy, tomorrow is always a new day. Dealing with a depressed person is so disheartening. We can try to be cheerful and giving, but it is like facing a brick wall. Nothing seems to help. I worked with someone who was severely depressed for a while and it was exhausting. I sympathize with what you are going through. The best you can do is to try to keep yourself out of the deep well while you are getting help for her. I hope that you can find something that brings a little hope back to her that it is going to get out of the cloud soon. Big hugs to you and your family. Your hubby and brother are treasures.
What if you tried respite care for a few days, at a nursing home? Just seeing other people and eating in a dining room, might help her.
I agree, try a respite situation for a week or so. You may find she will do great there. Sometimes I think of trying different things with mom than what we are doing then I start feeling guilty. Would she then become a guinea pig of sorts? I don't think so, sometimes we just need to change the routine for our own health and it may take a period of trial and error to get it to the point where everyone is comfortable with it.

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