Hospice roller coaster ride.
I've been caregiver for my mother-in-law for 6 years now. She has many health problems, and has wanted to die for a couple of years now. Well, she is finally on hospice, and I know this will sound terrible - but I'm so tired of the rollercoaster ride! They keep telling us she is showing signs that she's close to dying and she's barely moving/talking, etc., but then a couple of days later, she's perked back up and talking, drinking and eating. Then she starts declining and it starts all over again. I know only God knows when we die, but this slow death is so sad and frustrating! And needless to also say it's also frustrating to see her grandkids that she raised and hardly never visited her are showing up and acting all sad and caring about her now. UGH! Anybody got any suggestions as to what helps to keep you from going nuts?