New in home care for mother-in-law with dementia.
I am the one with her the longest time, her son (my hubby) works and is away 12+ hrs daily. He doesn't se all the anger I do when I tell her she isn't able to do something! I try to keep the topics light and non irritating but with this illness the moods swithch on and off in a blink of an eye!!! I am not prepared to handle this, we have a caregiver that comes 2 times a week to help and bath but only 4 hrs each time!? We can't afford more, and of all things my husband thinks I can do it on my own!!!! I'm frustrated and angy that he dosen't see how this effects everyone. This morning I had an argument with her about what bathroom was hers, our son was trying to use the second bath to get ready for school....! Since we moved into her home I have to try to respect her wishes but we need to function too? We , I think need to find a care center for her because I can't do this like her son wants me to...I can't even go to the restroom as she wanders everywhere and is a fall risk so I watch her like a hawk! I haven't slept more than 4 hrs a night because she wanders and gets up and turns on all the lights to see her way around. I know that we are in way over our heads!!!!!!!!!!!!! But there were other circummstances that lead up to this decision. Virginia has 2 children a son and a daughter, the daughter took POA for Virginia 3 yrs ago and had her placed in a care facility then..helped her pay the bills and alot more if you know what I mean...... with her moms money! So needless to say moms funds are almost gone and so is the "wonderful daughter!" . Now, thats where we come in,.... after no contact except for wanting something that no one else she tried would, she contacts her brother in a note that she gave up POA and she passed it to him! So we are literaly picking up the mess that was left by this waste of human flesh!