Mixed feelings about helping mother after years of abuse.
My mother hated and abused me since I was born until I escaped when I turned 21. She's been an alcoholic ans has Grave's Disease and heavy smoker. She's now 74 but looks100. Social Services has gotten involved due to her elderly husband and hoarding and unsanitary living conditions. They have cleaned things up but going to seize the property. I've waited all my life to have some kind of meaningful relationship with her but her drinking keep us away. I live out of state and she had told some lady she was going to leave her house to her. Social Services says she and her husband need care. I am the only family for either of them. I want to help her but I don't want anymore abuse. I don't have money to pay for a lawyer. My mother no no intention of leaving me anything. I've never done anything to her but try to help. Not sure if I should get involved or let the state handle it all, but they'll take everything she has. She owns a house and inherited my Grandmother's house which she sold (against the promise to my Grandmother that I would get it next. I grew up in that house.). She has plenty of money. She has never seen my kids (all grown up now) or been part of my family. Now she has calls me to "help" her. Not sure what I can or should do.