How about hearing from those who have been in an assisted facitlity and have seen what happened during their stay there,
Would like to hear more from others on the above. Having been in that situation for three years or more it might enlighten others to share their experiences. I am not going into detail about what happened in my case but will just say at first I needed the assistance and it was wonderful, I bonded right away with the staff and still keep in touch with them. But it was the administartor and her assistant and one so called aide that all of a sudden they did not like the fact that I had my mind so to speak, saw things, was friends with all the staff and they with me and they did not like that. They preferred I needed their help in all things like showering, going to bed at a certain time, not fraternizing with staff, I became very mobile, drove my own car till I gave it up, took the bus then, loved to socialize and at first they thought that was great but the more I could do for myself the more upset they got. They even went so far that they told the nurses at their meetings don't tell me anything, I just heard that recently. and my meds, oh my, how they got those fouled up. went without blood pressure meds for like three weeks and my own daughter who is a nurse was the one who laid down the law on them for that but it was her that actually got them ordered and picked up and it got even worse. So upshot was i had a big melt down and my daughter came in at that time and wanted to know what was wrong so I told her everything so they said you are not staying here and in two days they found a nice place that is independent living for seniors, I have a nice apartment now, entirely on my own and doing fine. In the meantime the other place as I call it has now been hiring and firing, hiring and firing not only aides but RNs as well, they can't keep anyone very long, they either quit or get fired and it is still going on. Three DONs walked out, not good. So what I would say to any caregiver that is thinking of putting their parents into these places, don't just let the main ones talk you into anything, inquire from the residents how they like where they are or check with former residents, the nurses and aides who used to work there, get an educated on what really goes on between closed doors. And check out the prices, just don't take it for granted that is what they charge, I have a friend still there after 8 years, has her own home but cannot live alone, in a W/C, can't walk, can't raise her arms only about to her shoulders, she has a very small room, it does have a Bathroom but not for the handicapped, she pays $2900, she tells me all the time how unhappy she is as they really don't like her and she knows it. I keep in touch not to find out that stuff but because she is very lonely and her only child lives in Ca. so she has no one here. Well I said I was not going to say this much but when I got started it was hard to quit so I will quit. Just think there should be a forum for people who are in any assisted facilities/homes to be able to vent. Just my opinion.