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I am so grateful for all the sharing of stories! I came to NJ from Ca Dec 2016 to help my Dad cross (Feb 2016) He was my Moms (93 and sweet as pie) caretaker and they were married 60 years. I have siblings but I’m the one. Today at 4:30 she got up walked into the bedroom and went to bed without a word. I googled “why do people with dementia sleep a lot” and found you guys. I have read your posts, laughed and cried. Thank you! It’s nice to know that we are sharing this walk in life right now and in spite of the sadness can find humor and joy. Although mom isn’t the woman I knew it’s an honor to help her and get to know this new person who is so complex and surprising! Wishing us all the best!

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Grateful to have had a steak dinner tonight gma inlaw loved it naturally but it still would have been nice to finish my own supper before she asked multiple times to feed her dog smh I wish she understood ppl eat before doggies do🙄
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Dear Cheylily,

You are definitely not alone. Me, too. I badly wished I had found this site before my father passed last year. There is so much wonderful support and comfort and information at this site.
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It is wonderful to know I'm not alone and only 2 ppl I know actually know for sure what I go thru and when I can't call them to b**ch it out I come here to read and read and read realizing others have got it way worse and I get to learn what's ahead for me. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and kind words
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katiekay: You are so right. God bless the people on this site because if we don't share, we essentially help no one.
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My Aunt will be 90 in less than two weeks and she still tells me she is grateful for the time she spent helping care for my mother. They were seven years apart in age, my Aunt being younger. Mom's been gone10 years now but my Aunt and I still talk about the two years we spent caring for her.
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I am also so grateful for this site .. and I also count it as a big part of my support system. Literally no one else in real life even comes close to "getting it". I would have felt so all alone in this journey if I hadn't started coming here more then 3 years ago.

There have been so many dark times when I have spiraled down emotionally and felt all alone in my troubles. I hate to see others suffering as well.. but I think with suffering comes great empathy and kindness towards others.

You will never know the effect of one encouraging post, a virtual hug, understanding advice... it all means so much.

So thank you.. I am grateful!
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I'm not sure what my mom stage is and she has dementia and Parkinson's can anyone let me know I try to move my mom's head and there was stiff she couldn't move I seen her looking at me but I was moving side to side and I didn't see her eyes moving side to side she used to be able to grip my hand what stage would she be in right now my sibling won't tell me nothing. She's in charge of my mom's health and she just hates me for no reason and I just hear it Through the Grapevine what's going on with my mom. Can she still hear me she used to squeeze my hand and she doesn't anymore. Me and my mom is very close and my sister only had my mom for less than a year my mom live with me for 30 years of our marriage so I asked my sister to help me take care of my mom but she said I don't want her bouncing from house to house which she had like 6 different people watching her at her house she spent very little time with my mom I know my mom like the back of my hand my mom would tell me things about my sister and I know that it's true because she used to do these things before my sister had no patience for my mom and now she's blaming us for Sharon my mom with their family which she Verity spend any time with her she had like 6 different people watching her while my sister went on vacations and she couldn't handle it she was stressed blah blah blah. How would I know how my mom's doing if I can ask my sister or my
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As an aside, if I can help one person from going down a dark hole by any  words that I post, then I am blessed beyond measure by that individual.
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It is always an inspirational to hear someone speak as you do. It helps me adjust my attitude (and I am sure many others) about why we do what we do, which is honor to these souls that did so much for so long, and now need someone to care for them. I am thankful for you and your wisdom.
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You are absolutely right it is an honor to get to love and help a parent when they need us the most. I feel very lucky that I was here to help. I get to cherish every second I got to help my mom. I was very lucky to have had a great mom & dad and a great life. I lost my mom this year and my dad in 1979 and a brother in 1971.
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