In the process of moving Mom to an IL/AL facility, my BIL made decisions that effectively kicked me off the caregiving team. That was about 2 days ago. From what I can tell, she is settling in and financial issues are being resolved. I can't call her because he cell phone service doesn't work there and the new phone has not been connected. The new phone number has not been shared - at least, not with me. My emails to BIL have so far not been answered.
I am still DPOA but since she has chosen BIL to help her, I'm not needed.
I'm trying to see the blessing this is - that I am not carrying the burden of all her issues and needs all by myself. This process has shown me how selfish she is. Once she realized I was onto her act, she targeted BIL and he is now coordinating things.
I REALLY need to be okay with this.