First steps towards assisted living.
First of all, I appreciate this forum and just the chance to "lurk" and read everyone's comments and suggestions.
My 84 yr old mom has been living on her own in a 2/2 condo. Unfortunately, it is a 2nd floor villa and there is no elevator(!). She is starting to have trouble with the stairs, and in general getting more and more confused about things. Our family (my local brother, I live out of state) has started looking for some other type of living arrangement, including possibly just renting a first floor apt.
Yesterday, they went to see an ALF, but apparently for $1500/mo. it was extremely closet-like, and everyone agreed that it was too small and that she cannot afford something bigger. Mom did come away impressed, however, by the number of activities such a place offered, and seemed very excited by this, as she often complains of loneliness.
The problem is, she has never really been able to make, or at least keep, friends. She has basically refused to even consider that her church, or other churches, might offer comparable activities for seniors, and this is a big part of her problem: nothing and nobody seems "good enough" for her, and I think this attitude is quickly picked up by people, and therefore she has no real friends!
To get to the point: clearly, even a great facility with lots to do will likely turn into the same "woe is me" I am lonely, etc., given my mom's personality. At this point, clearly she cannot change, and there is no point in essentially pointing out that the problem is her (and I do believe it is).
I would love to be proven wrong, and maybe she will find a place where she will be able to find some friends..... but it seems unlikely.
So I guess I don't really have a question per se, but comments are always welcome. Thanks!