I am new to this board, still trying to figure out how this works but seeing a lot of stories similar to mine. Dad died five years ago and I was left overseeing mom. She is 77 and an old 77. She depends on me for EVERYTHING. I am a 41 year old female that did not find someone to share a life with. My boyfriend of more than a year left me for unknown reasons more than a year ago so I am totally alone in this being an only child. I have a GREAT job at a local hospital, but we have affiliated with a larger hospital about an hour away and as time goes on my job may be transitioned out of town. Mom abuses wine, I admit that I am following in her footsteps as I have NO help. She has no siblings, no relatives that I can lean on. Mom will do nothing - she is always complaining she is tired and she goes no where but the hairdressers. I make a list literally every day just to keep track what I need to take care of that day. Some days I just feel like asking what did I deserve to get this?