Feeling so invisible....
Haven't posted in a while. A few months ago I moved my parents to independent living senior apartments close to my house. My mom has high BP and had a stroke this summer (no permanent damage). My dad has beginning stages of dementia. My parents have been living here for about 3 months. My dad goes back and forth with being ok living there to wanting to go home.
Anyway, I am the in town sibling so ALL care has fallen on me. My mom has 2 younger sisters in town who swore how much they would love to have their sister closer to them so they could spend time together. Well.. so far one sister has only visited once for an hour and the other has come a few times.. but quickly leaves.(this is in 3 months time). and definately not enough to help me out or offer any respite for me. So they are basically just ignoring them.. even though they live close. Of course none of them even think about the toll this is taking on me.. or care.
My siblngs... My brother lives 12 hours away.. but he came to help me winterize their home they moved out of.. for a week. Well.. he left without getting the water properly turned off.. that is still on me.. and that was the main reason he even came.!
My sister... keeps planning trips and cancelling. The last trip I bought her a ticket. She was supposed to come and help me with some of the financial issues that have been stacking up.. paperwork... etc. and to spend time with them... well... that was last week .. and she cancelled at the last minute saying she was sick. This is about the 3rd time she has cancelled.
Neither my brother or sister even calls regularly ..
This morning I was telling my mom that instead of helping me my sister just put more on me to have to go back and forth with what ticket we should get .. planning her trip etc. (I even took time off work) Well.. instead of my mom understanding.. she thought that I was saying that I was putting uneeded pressure on my sister.... causing HER extra stress.. I cant even say how much that hurt.. like a knife in my heart!.
I am just beside myself...this is taking over my whole life.. and NO ONE cares, NO ONE is greatful.. or has any idea of the toll it is taking on me.
I know ... I am not the only one dealing with these issues and I have read posts similar.. but I just need to vent.. as there is NO ONE in my life that I can talk to about this.. I don't know what they think.. they probably don't think much about it.
Thanks for listening to my vent...