Hitting my head against a brick wall and feeling responsible for Mom.
One problem seems to look like it will be fixed. Of course there is another that has been a problem before when she went to the hospital and now again. She has COPD and Stage 4 kidney disease. She was in the hospital because she developed a blister on her leg that broke open. The cause was too much fluid in her body. She went back to the doctor yesterday because she developed another blister. Today she said it is starting to leak fluid. I tell her she had to do what the doctor says to stay out of the hospital. And repeat what the doc said. Take her fluid pills (she barely gets to bathroom on time-because of the dose she complains. Doc had to up the meds to get more fluid out. She can't sit with her feet up too much because she has to get things done. Won't pay a maid. Can't afford it. She can but is saving all the money she can for brother to live on when she dies. Won't take volunteer. Don't know if you can trust them and they won't do good job without being paid. I said spend a lot of time resting with feet up between doing things. She say- You can only sit with your feet up for so long. Tell her to eat more cause she is loosing weight. Don't want to eat cause can't taste things. Can't use salt. Don't like a lot of spices. Dumped a lot of Italian dressing on food but still doesn't taste like much. Won't eat anything that has more than a tiny bit of salt in it. She is 89. I guess her taste buds are part of the problem at her age. I still feel responsible for her when she tells me these problems. Even though all I get is a negative response to what ever I say. How do I detach emotionally? Especially since her stubbornness will likely mean problems for me down the road. And having to stay at her place and taking care of her for several days or more after her (probably) next hospital stay. And I get emotionaly exhausted being with her and want to scream.