I am finding myself feeling resentment towards my father. He is 91 on dialysis three times per week and totally wheelchair bound. He and my mother still live in their own home, she has dementia. The situation is terrible. He had a chance to go to a VA nursing home in August and absolutely refused and caused a terrible scene and so did my mother. They both said some terrible things. Now things have progressed and my sister and I are picking up the slack. I am 61 she is 66, I work fulltime. My parents did not plan for their future and there is very little money to pay for caregivers. He does get the VA pension if it wasn't for that we could do nothing. He didn't even know he could get it, I filled out the papers and my sister took everything down and submitted it and thank goodness he got it a year ago. Yes, I resent him terribly for being so very selfish.