Feeling alone and a bit bitter.
I live with my dad who is 89 and in good health but he is 89 and declining. I live and work from home so we are together all the time and he is pretty dependent on me for almost everything. I do the cooking, cleaning, shopping, I keep him company, I make sure he takes his meds. I love my dad and would do anything for him and I am honoured to have the role I have. However, I have 4 other sisters who are not around, rarely call, very rarely visit and never ask if I need a break or a hand. The grandchildren are another story, there are 9 of them and 4 great grandchildren and dad is lucky to see them once a year. We've even stopped having Christmas together, which is so heartbreaking because everyone says they are too busy, have their own families now, don't want to drive so far, etc. My mom passed, at home in her bed, 2 years ago and I cared for her before she died. I have promised my dad that he will get to pass away in his own bed too. I just never thought I would be all alone in doing this. I am feeling a bit anxious and angry with my siblings and I recently hung up on one of them after she told me that she was too busy to help or visit. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get my sibs on board without being mean or bitter about it? If I can't count on them now when dad is great and healthy and would love visitors, how can I get them on board in the future when he really declines and is not so much fun to be around? Looking for any advice!