Does anyone ever feel guilty about "airing their dirty laundry" on this or any forum? ?

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I know we are here for specific questions/advice and support for caring for our loved ones. But with that, comes the point of ( sometimes) telling detailed information about them and even at times.. our family issues as I have.

I know this may sound strange but thinking of how my grandfather would handle things, he would never go on a forum, and would only tell a Dr information. Even if he asked for advice he would barely give any details. I do not think Im explaining myself and what I mean correctly, so im sorry if I am not making sense.

Things are just so puzzled, and not just with my grandpa, but with all my family. So I was just curious.

Hope you all are having a great day so far..

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This website has been a godsend for me.... in fact, I think I spend way too many hours on it each day, but it's a great escape for me. And in those many hours I have learned so much that I am trying to incorporate into my life. I'm afraid if I don't log in, I might miss a good idea. OMG, I am hooked.
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H*ll no. Right now my drunk sister is telling stories at the top of her lungs, my father is being nasty. I can't get away from it. I am stressed to the gills. Dad eats little, sleeps all day, the end can't be more than 6 months off. my nitwit family is in denial about his decline. My nurse sister who does very little of the care, told me I make it hard on the rest of the siblings, because I don't treat Dad like a child but a grown man who calls the shots. If I didn't have this forum, I would go crazy. I love you guys, and your sage advice has saved me many times.
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I would have had a breakdown if i didnt have a support forum i actually thought i was going mad and family almost had me commited as they didnt think mum had dementia so guilt "NO".

Maybe feel bad venting about mum as she was a good mum but with "dementia" all bets are off! this is something we cant deal with on our own and i think we are venting about dementia not them as they were?
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Hi me, today is the first day I joined. I actually felt guilty talking to friends. They didn't understand and seem sick of hearing me. I didn't want any of them to take what I'm saying as complaining about caring for my elderly parents. I just need the support since I am single and don't have anyone for myself. After reading a lot of posts I saw that it's normal and ok to need to vent and voice my feelings. I am happy to help my parents but accept that I am human and need to recharge my own batteries so I can keep doing what I am doing. I am reading inbetween catering so it is keeping me company as I am sick in the house every weekend on beautiful sunny days
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Thank you to the rest of you who have been answering! I know, you all are right but I still feel kinda guilty. But, at the same time, I feel relieved and wanting to help others here. You all have helped me and gave me a lot to think about and do :) I hope everything for you all is going well today
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Bonni I laughed out loud about your guilt toilet analogy. Thnx I needed that
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This website has been a Godsend for me. One of my siblings will listen to my worries and concerns about Mom, but when I get irritated about not getting any help from any of them, I get shut out. It's like they want to listen to her medical issues, but don't want to listen to the fact that I need help. (Brother did come take her out one morning not long ago to see a parade for a couple of hours - I felt like a liberated prisoner!) One sister will listen with an attentive ear and then say, "I'll pray for you". While I appreciate that, I would rather have HELP! The other sis simply denies anything is wrong with Mom and just kind of nods and smiles all the time, like she's just tolerating what I say and waiting for me to shut up.

So do I feel guilty about airing dirty laundry here, whining a bit and discussing the needs of the caregiver and the loved one being cared for? No, not really. I don't go into specifics about finances, etc....I don't mention family or sibling names....and I don't post anything so specific that anyone could identify me. Everyone needs a place to talk, rant, rave, blow off steam, and so on - I don't see anything wrong with posting things here to get feedback and ideas, as well as support. We caregivers have far too little support in our lives!
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I don't feel guilty or embarrassed because I feel we all share some of the same feelings and experience. I don't wish what I feel and what I am going through on anyone. I hope that by everyone sharing,venting ,sharing it brings us all some peace. There are so many people in the same position. We just choose to talk(text) about it.
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Me1000, I've been on website forums ever since they were invented, hiding behind a make believe screen name. Met a lot of wonderful people, exchanged a lot of good ideas, and had some aha moments that helped me understand what is going on.

Gone are the days of ladies chatting over the backyard fence. The internet is now our fence and we can talk to everyone all over the world.... what I find so interesting is that people in other countries have the same family dynamics :]

My Dad is in his 90's and still uses a computer, but I don't think he has ever written a *comment* on a website. He is way too private, same with my Mom.
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don't really have any guilt at all. I remain 'hidden' behind me moniker. there are a few who would know who I am but they don't come here.
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