Father wants to take mom out of nursing home to care for her. He is 90 and she is 92 and dying. He is abusive both verbally and physically to her.

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mom is dying an hasn't much time left. but is afraid of him so she will do what he wants. father doesn't want us to see her. this is a control issue he has. she is in a nursing home now an wants her home so we won't beable to go on his property help


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Please talk to the nursing home social worker about this. He or she should be able to advise you about what steps you can take so that your mother can remain safe and see her family during her last months. If she is on hospice care, they also have social workers who may be able to help. Good luck.
Our local office of Right at Home, a private duty home health agency, has been in situations like this. We have assigned caregivers who are adept at dealing with family situations like this, management who assists when circumstances are too difficult, taking the burden off you. This however, should not replace the counsel of a qualified social worker.

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