Isolation family member is keeping me from talking to my Mom.

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@ Maggie And I don't want to make nicey nicey with her because she is not trying to work with me as a family. But...oh...they where all concerned about her monies and belongings before.
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Well, it hurts and it is hurting her Grandchildren. And it really is because my mom made her own choices and stayed with me was never involved with their lives And for whatever reason never financially helped her. THAT is not my fault. Whatever.........
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Realistically, she's the boss. In complete control. Sounds like your sister has taken the bull by the horns, gotten the situation under control, and is limiting the drama by not letting mom cause problems on the phone like she did when she was with you.

Make nice with your sister. In the meantime, send mom newsy cards and letters. Can't imagine what else you can do.
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Thank you all for your responses to the personal storage items and my mom's belongings.

Does anyone have helpful answers about how to handle the issue of my sister not allowing us to talk to my mom........
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Maggie.....These are items that are worth something and not garbage.
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It's not another black mark against you. Change the message to let your sister know you will be holding a garage sale for the property mid-November if she doesn't put the storage space into her or mom's name. Get the stuff out. If it's like things I've seen put into storage, it's stuff your mom doesn't care about anyway.

You're only a victim of you martyr yourself.
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@ Maggie.......if they default, the storage is leased in my name.......another black mark against me....:( Because of the last couple of years. But what you have said is what I will probably end up having to do that. So I can have some piece of mind. I have sent email after email and called everyday asking them to get in touch with me.
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@CWillie....my mom is 900 miles away from me now. Living with my sister since the middle of July 2015. And I had a temporary POA. I am sure my sister is working on that. They have switched her money to a new account. She and I still have a open account. There is no way my mom did that on her own. But my sister has always had the tendency o do that. Years before when my mom went to visit for a 2 months she came back home and bank statements came back in with my sister listed as POD. She's jealous, and bitter of the relationship that I had with my mom.....but that is not my fault. And I never rubbed it in her face or anything...on the contrary.....I never spoke up.
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First, straighten out the financial entanglements. Send this sibling an email letting her know where mom's things are stored and that, effective December 1st you are no longer paying the storage fee at ABC Storage. That email will suffice as proof you have notified her. Also mail her a Certified Letter with Return Receipt saying THE EXACT SAME THING.

In that email and letter, tell them you can no longer store mom's car and that they have thirty days to either provide the signed title or come get the car. Otherwise, you will have it towed and let them know what tow company has taken it.

Your letter might sound something like this:

"On X date, I put mom's things into storage because I no longer had room for them in my home. I have been paying the storage fees of $X a month since then. I can no longer afford the monthly charge. I will pay November, but this is your notice that I will not be paying storage fees after that date. You can reach them at 212-555-1212.

I've been requesting the title to mom's car so it can be sold for quite some time now, without success. I can no longer store it on my property. On December 2nd, if I do not have the title allowing me to sell the ca and you haven't removed it, I will be calling XYZ Towing to remove it and will accept no further responsibility for its disposition."

I think you'll feel much better if you take care of this unfinished business. Since it doesn't sound as if your relationship with your sister could be much worse, at least move to get those loose ends tied up.
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OK, so where exactly is your mom living, you say she was calling your sister so it is obviously not with her. Is she in assistive living? I would hope she is not on her own as it sounds as though her dementia is too far advanced for that!
Your life fell apart and you had to step back from caregiving, there is nothing wrong with that, and it is good that your sister stepped in to fill the gap. You must know that your mom calling your to move back is exactly what she was doing to your sister before, so don't get sucked into feeling guilty about that!

Your mom may be fabricating past hurts and putting you in a bad light and your sis and family are too inexperienced with the disease to understand that the truth can be flexible in dementia. Try to keep on good terms with them all so they can see for themselves that you are not that kind of person. It must be hard, ((hugs)).
As for them not answering or acknowledging letters or email, send it registered mail and have them have to sign for it, then you will know for sure if they are playing games or if there is just miscommunication going on. And I would have the fees for storage forwarded directly to your mother and her POA, if you are not allowed to take any action to resolve things it should not be your responsibility.
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