Working full time and taking care of mom = exhaustion.
Three years ago I went through a divorce after 28 yrs of marriage. About the same time I began caring for both parents. Although they do not live with me, it meant doctor appts, shopping, errands, calls went household problems arose etc. My father passed away last November, but I still care for my mother. I work a full time job which means 8-9 hous a day and sometimes weekends. I am exhausted!. My mother who always appreared to be s trong woman has suddenly become helpless. Every day there is something she needs done. She is unable to or is unwilling to take care of anything. She has begun makingnotes for everything and seems to sit all day looking at catalogs that come in the mail. We have visited several Assisted iving places, but she cannot make up her mind. Yesterday I was called out of meetings because she had plumbing issues. I went by her house after work and tried to talk to her about how tired I am and that we needed to think of a way to get some help because I was exhausted and having difficulty keeping up with her needs, her home, her dog, my job much less my home and dogs. It did nto go well. She took a "poor me" atttitude and said "OK..if you want me to go into the stupid assisted living I will and I will be miserable." Mind you, my brother (who lives in Calif.) and I have purposley not told her that is what she should do beause we know the reprecussions of that. Well, one thing led to another and we had a pretty ugly argument.She left the room and I came home. I don't know what to do. we have aldy come in once a week to clean her home and then she comes back another day just to sit and visit for a couple ofhours. She is from a home care company. I asked mom to let her take her for some blood tests last week which is 5 minutes from her house, and she wouldn't. She seems to only want me to do thes things and frankly I just can't continue to take time off work not to mention how tired I am. I really don't know what to do . She won't discuss any options. I am open to any and all suggestions because I can't go on this way. Thanks for listening.