My son and I have had enough of my mother's verbal assaults, mild physical violence and now death threats, etc. she lives with us.

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She told us we were lucky that she hasn't put anti-freeze yet in our drinks, because she has it in her car in her trunk, she is beyond reason and refuses to be treated or get help, she is currently being held on a Baker Act but my fear is her wrath when she comes home and that she will not continue care, I will not allow her to continue to live with us unless she is being treated by a doctor. I am beyond stressed I have no time for myself in the evenings as every night is a new battle it is like living with Jekyl & Hyde I have gained weight from the stress, ALOT of weight, I am not happy and this is not fair to my son or I. Any suggestions? I need to get POA on her also ASAP.

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Ooo, I wouldn't want POA. In your shoes I would say that I was no longer able to provide care because I worried about the health of my child. The antifreeze comment would have been enough for me to not allow her to live with me. I would be tempted to let the state become her guardian. You have your son to protect. He will probably thank you for giving yourself some comfortable distance. Neither one of you should have to live in fear of what she'll do.
She is Baker acted.. tell them you can no longer care for her . End of story. you say she lives with you.. not you with her.. so just stand your ground.
We moved in a more expensive larger apartment to accommodate her, I need her to pay her share of the rent, I will get a second job for peace of mind if I need to, but we want her to get the help she needs, I hope they are medicating her and telling her that it is helping her and she needs it.
I would move into something you can afford on your own. Will she continue to take the meds once released? Who can say?

This is someone who needs professional caregiving.
I am so sorry that your mother is so severely mentally ill. She did not ask for that and she cannot control it.

But neither did you ask for this, and you certainly can't control it. Tell the discharge planners that you cannot take your mother back into your apartment. You are not qualified to care for her and you must protect yourself and your son from her threats. Be firm.

I am sorry this puts you in a financial bind. That you were willing to take a chance and try to provide a comfortable home for her speaks highly of you. You did the right thing for what you knew at the time. I hope the financial hardship is temporary and you can quickly downsize again. But even the financial hardship does not override the sensible approach here: Do not make your son share his home with this mentally ill person who is violent.

There is no "bad guy" here. This is no one's fault. Continue to love your mother, advocate for her care, visit her often, and do not put yourself and son at risk.
Get out....I don't want to read about this on the evening news and your son is an innocent who does not deserve this, nor do you. It's like the say on the airplanes--put the oxygen mask on yourself first--you can't save anyone if you don't save yourself first.
why do people sacrifice their own children to appease an evil parent of their own
Twocents, I share your sentiment, but I'd point out that mentally ill is not the same as evil. The mother deserves compassion, but the OP and son deserve safety first and foremost.
I understand, but far too many of 'mentally ill' know the difference between right and wrong. Many mentally ill are harmless enough. But when they go off the deep end, it is always evil they consistently commit. And far too many are manipulative to boot. Mom may deserve compassion, but not at sons expense. Trouble is, there is no where to put 'mentals' any more.
This sounds like a power struggle where both want control. Both parties need domestic violence counseling and a temporary order of protection.
The cost of the apartment is irrelevant. The safety of the child is paramount.

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