Just found this site. Crying. Seeing things differently. Posted the medical details already.
Decided that whatever is wrong, I should be keeping him from wasting more of his 'little gray cells' by upsetting him. Humor the lunatic when necessary. Nothing is more important than him staying functional mentally. Resolved to do whatever he wants (within reason). Find my support from more permanent things: the trees, garden, books, dog....
Trouble is ... "within reason". He had asked for wake up calls so he wouldn't sleep past noon.
Me: "But if you can't sleep during the night, will you email me to cancel the wakeup call?"
He asked again last night, Friday, for a wakeup call this morning (Saturday). He was feeling good yesterday, wanted to do some projects today (Saturday).
This morning no email from him, so I made the wakeup call. Because I had resolved to do everything he told me, without argument.
Him: "I'm asleep... I got no sleep last night...."
So I'm crying and posting this, instead of apologizing to him in person and breaking down crying in front of him, which would stress him more.