Emotional roller coasters of caregivers and the dysfunctional people they care for!
I've been on an emotional roller coaster for weeks now since I returned to my home! My parents both with dementia were doing so much better when I left their plans were in place, help coming in doctors, on board. Now my dad has done an emotional 180 degrees, again hates his doctor moms doctor of which this is my fault according to him, on day then someone else's fault another. Mom is falling again 3 times in 2weeks, my father fell once that I knew about. Mom went back to the hospital, they did test of which still don't have results. I've been working with social worker from the hospital, Veterans hospital, both their doctors. Trying to get new help in for mom and dad since they believe the last women stole mothers wallet.
When mother got home from the hospital last night she fell again, her dementia is worse. Dads doctor won't let him drive but dad said he's going to drive anyway. The veterans mini van that dad hates to use isn't an option any longer. New government regulations state you have to be wheel chair bound. I TOLD HER NOW THAT'S JUST CRAZY TALK REALLY HE CAN'T HEAR!
All these years my parents haven't been re-enrolling in a medical plan so it's been defaulting to a lesser AARP complete plan which isn't very good but they've never known to reenroll. Now I'm going to have to conference in the insurance company and my father to reenroll them.
In order for my father to go into the veterans nursing home should he survive my mother he has to be 70% disabled he's 60%. So I called the doctor at the v/a of which won't speak to me and I get his very over worked secretary who tells me I'm the one not the doctor that has to contact the government to have my fathers disability rating changed. REALLY, THAT IS CRAZY TALK I TOLD HER!
So the agency that has been so wonderful to help me and my family, dad files a police report on them to get his 100.00 back sense they are bonded. (((((SCREAM)))))) they are kind enough to still try to help them after that. I ask day to please remove the complaint and drop the charges, he blew up on me SCREAMING ALL I CARE ABOUT IS HIS MONEY hello what are we talking about here, then he hangs up!
I called his neighbors today to check on them and when I told Hazel the is Zoolu, she said " Child how did you ever survive being raised by that man"? I said I don't know? About that time the new nurses aid came to their home. I called them later to check on them and they were just happy relieved, so glad to have the new gale! AND ME, WELL I FEEL LIKE DEATH WARMED OVER!
How was your day's Peep's