Mom (84) is the caregiver and I am worried.
My mom married her husband 12 years ago. He has Alzheimer's. He has been living at home. He barely is able to walk with a walker. He tires after walking for a few minutes. He has trouble standing up to use the walker. He is very weak. He is incontinent and has had bm accidents. He cannot have conversation. He is generally good natured but will argue in the evening about having to go to bed. I believe it is too much for my mom to care for him. She gets so frustrated and is not patient with him. She says things like " you know how to do this" to him when it is obvious to me he does not remember at all how to do it. He has fallen in the past and I am afraid he will do so again and hurt himself. I don't see this as a good arrangement for either of them. How do you know if it is time to put him in assisted care and convince my mom. She seems too concerned about the financial aspect of it instead of the actual reality of the situation.