My elder and mobile father scares me.
He has early stages of dementia; who still drives his car.
I am his caregiver, and he will not take any of his prescribed medication.
He has many people tricked into thinking he is able and skilled and proficient,
when in truth he is incapable of handling his basic retirement savings
from month to month.
I handle all of the bills and he berates me, because he cannot have all of his money.
Because he does not understand a monthly budget, I am just stuck here, talking and listening to his ego, demand and want all the money, with his demanding maniacal character.
Somedays, he states, he wants me out of his house, which he only rents.
Rent that is only paid for because I am here to make sure the money is in his account.
He overspends every month, on purpose, to cause aggravation and violence.
Because he is physically stronger than me, and I have no where to go,
as he is my current occupation, I can barely pay myself any money,
because I am afraid of his reaction.
I thought put up with his aggression, but as it worsens, I really want him to take his medication. As I do not have enough money to move away.
As a state case, they will just rob every penny of his savings,
paying for this case worker and that nurse, etc. , leaving nothing to his children.
I have even thought about slipping the drugs into his food, to calm him down.
but the reaction, if he found out, could me at physical risk.
Don't really need replies, as the only thing I can do, is hope he listens to his doctors orders one day. While I try to not be effected by his outbursts and cruel verbal assaults.
As intolerable as the disease of dementia is, having the utmost patience with any of the dementia elderly is compulsory.