I can't get my 93yr old mother to wash, she hasn't had bath or shower for 4yrs.
She's unwell and housebound now, incontinent due to prolapse of the bowel, and smells very bad as she refuses personal care from her carers. She lives alone in sheltered accommodation. We go everyday but she is very clingy now and wants us there all the time. She's stopped eating in the last 3 weeks apart from ice cream or yogurt. She's disorientated, going dizzy but still refuses help in getting dressed from carers. She's very depressed, lost all sense of time & has no interest in anything. Her quality of life is zero. Its so upsetting to see her like this, she gets very panicky & agitated & says something is wrong with her head. She hasn't been diagnosed with dementia as she wont talk to her G P. I feel she's dying but fighting it & its so distressing to see..