My mom and best friend has passed away on 3-6-09!

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Hi everyone this is pintos, I just wanted to let you all know that my mom passed away 3-6-09. I miss her so much! she wasnt just my mom she was my best friend. I know that on a few of my post I was complaining about some of the things that she was doing, now I know that it was not her fault and I feel so guilty! but I know my mom does not blame me even though I blame myself for listening to her Doctor who is an idiot! and pretty much killed my Mom. She died a horrible death and I hate him so much, I will explain later but right now my heart is broke so it is hard for me to talk about it. I still have my dad to take care of he is not doing so well he will not eat nor will he talk much. I feel so sorry for him I now that he misses my Mom so much they were as close as two people could be. now he is in the room confined to his bed all by himself, he just stares at the ceiling. They would have been married 58 years this march 30th. please pray for my Dad and me thanks. pintos

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Dear pintos, so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts, my Mom was my best friend too. We all feel for you, and understand that it is hard to talk about it, much less write about it. We will pray for you, for strength and for your Dad too. Your Mom understands, and please don't feel guilty. She will not hold it against you, and is in a much better place now. Hopefully you can come back to us when you can and talk. Take Care, Nauseated
Pintos, I am so sorry for this very sad time in your life. Know that we are thinking of you and you and your family are in our prayers. Let us know how you are doing. God bless
Pintos, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers!
Dana,

I am so sorry for your loss. The bond between a mom & daughter is a precious gift, we all understand your loss and will be there with you in the days and months to come. You and your family will be in our prayers.
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You're in my prayers, as well, Pintos. There are always mixed feelings, but the pain of loss is there. Take time to grieve.
Carol
Dear Pintos,

Sorry to hear about your lose, I went through a similar experience with my Mother and even though I own a home care company in the Phoenix area and have dealt with these issues since 1979, it was very difficult to get over her death. I received free grief counseling from a Hospice company which really helped me recover. I would call a Hospice in your community and ask them to help you with your feelings and your father's situation. Hospice care is free and a terrific service. Good luck to you and God bless.
Dear Pintos,

I'm very sorry for your loss. As I type this message I can't help feeling really sad. I'm only 28 but I feel like 60. I can't say that I understand how you feel because I've never lost anyone close to me but I feel the torture everyday. My Mom was recently diagnosed with Terminal Pancreatic Cancer. I am also the closest person to her and well I can't bare watching her die slowly right in front of me. I'm afraid all cancers are a horrible way to die but it's also become a trend apparently. Sorry again for your loss <----even these words piss me off, we shouldn't have to say them, there should always be a way to solve problems. My Mom Wants to live and I can't do anything about it!! She says it like she means it. Take Care Pintos and I will pray for you and your Dad.
Hello,
I'm new to this forum,and I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my wonderful mom 2 months and 27 days ago. It's very weird how, with the birth of a baby, you mark every day and month of their new life. When you lose you mom, you do the same because it is all new and really sad. I'm caring for my 79 yr old father now, who does not live with me. He is angry, mean, I think has dementia, has no clue of money or anything because my mom did it all. He also has macular degeneration and cant drive. He has now informed me he no longer wants me to care for him. Well, my brother takes no part in his care, although he is able (thats another post), so I've turned to a geriatric case manager. Hopefully, he'll help Dad and we can jointly care for him. He may have more success than I have. I've done everything in my power to try to help him, and all I get is grief and nastiness from him. He is so difficult.

Again, I'm very sorry for your loss. The hole in my heart will never heal for my mom,and I understand how you feel.
Hi everyone, thanks for all of your post! its nice to see that people actually care even for a stranger. Well today is 1 month since my mom went to the ER and died 5 days later,but it seems like just yesterday I miss her everyday!. I have been through Hell and back, I was elected the one who would have to pick out her coffin make all the funeral arrangements pick out a dress for her to ware shoes well you get the picture o yah and pay for the funeral because her life insurance has not paid out yet. My husband is great he has helped me do everything while my 3 siblings have done absolutely nothing!! all the while caring for my Dad. He is not doing so good to be honest I thought that he would have already given up, he has not eaten solid foods for at least 2 weeks now all he will eat is cream soups or cream of wheat, and I get him insures which I have him drink at least 3 a day. When he does eat is cream whatever it is only like 6 bites which is not very much! so need less to say every time I go in his room I think im going to find him dead and it scares me, I am not ready to do this again so soon. I have had to deal with so much crap you would not believe it! first getting the death cert. Then trying to get her medical records what a joke. I finally got all the paper work done and noterized so now I have to wait for about 15 buisness days before they are done. I am going to file a provider negligence against her Primary, or a formal complaint. This Doctor neglected to provide the proper care for my Mom which resulted in her death. He would not listen to me or the home nurses so my Mom died a horrible horrible Death because of him!! so I am doing this so nobody else has to suffer like she did at his hands. I am not sure how to go about it but getting all her medical records is a start. If anyone out there knows anything about how to do this I sure could use the help! and I would be so grateful, thanks everone. Pintos.
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You are corageous, Pintos. I tried working through the VA on some stuff that was wrong about my dad's records and got nowhere fast. It takes a lot of stamina.
Good luck with this.

Carol

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