Resentful towards my mother for making me need "me" time.
My 81 year old mother moved in with me about 1 1/2 years ago. I feel very resentful towards her because she strives to make me feel guilty for needing time to my self. I work all week M-F while she goes and lays around at adult day care. She nor my dad ever worked thus I was pretty much brought up in poverty. My dad passed away about four years ago. She gets very little for S.S. since she did not work. I have a family of my own and live well-above poverty. I do not mind her living with me but she is not the cleanest person and I have to battle with her to take a bath. She picks her skin until she bleeds and wont stop. She has blood stains all over her sheets and has gotten a form of shingles. Since I work all week, I really need Saturdays to myself. However, she puts me on a guilt trip by crying and saying I don't care about her, if I leave her at home with my 18 year old son. I am finding myself getting extremely angry with her and yelling at her often. I don't like how I feel towards her and just want to get away from her. Then I feel guilty because I know she will not live forever, then I'll regret feeling angry. I am at my witts end with her. I am sick and tired of cleaning up blood, washing her clothes, battling with her to take a bath, and being responsible for her mental well-being!!!