My family found my dad's hoarding problem when he passed away.
My father passed away this weekend. As we started trying to help my mother prepare for visitors, family members discovered something I have been asking for help with for years. What the rest of my siblings have referred to as pack rat issues are really serious hoarding problems complete with a huge mouse infestation and cleanliness issues.The house is very large and is in the country. My father has been in the hospital for over 7 months and the house has become worse during that time.It was already packed with "stuff" but was cleaner until the last year. I have begged mom to let me help but she will not and becomes angry. I will be mom's primary caretaker from now on since everyone else lives far away. My siblings have become hostile when I have asked for help, but I know something must change. I have asthma and cannot spend the night or any length of time with her in her house although I love her dearly and would like to do so. My father was aware of the problem and tried to change things prior to his strokes. How can I handle this situation? I am grieving for my father and want to help my mother in a loving way.