My grandfather deliberately pees on bathroom floor to get back at my mother and I.

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He is not fond of my mother and views my mother and me as one person so in addition to intentionally peeing on the powder room floor leaving a poodle in front of the toilet floor (which has to be copped as many as 5 times a day) he will take a bowel moverment and won't flush the toilet; he purposely drops things on the floor and refuses to pick up and walks over it as if he doesn't see it (for instane his underwear from laundry or is wash rag for wiping his head from sweat); spills liquids on the kitchen floor like orange juice which leaves the floor sticky so that it has to be mopped althoug no as often as the bathroom. I am currently recovering from abdominal myomectomy surgery and was mopping the floor three days after returning from the hospital which I was not supposed to lift a finger let alone mop a bathroom and kitchen floor! The problems go on and on, but these are the worst of them because I also have a comprimiese immune system and need to keep germs under control.

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grossedout1, I am glad to hear that you are moving out. How soon can that happen? Do your parents need any care?
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My father is now 89 - he still pisses on the floor. Like a dog. Its not dementia despite his age. He elects do and has done so for at least the last 23 yrs that I know of. The first time I saw this was when he and my mom visited when my kids were small. My ex husband could be heard screaming from the bathroom - not only had he slipped in my fathers piss (kids bathroom no less) but he fell. My ex was mild mannered but cursed for 20 minutes and threw a mop at my dad and told him to clean it the EFF up. I mean - this is not a little piss. It was a horse sized puddle.

Here I am now taking care of him and he still pisses all over the can and floor except now he doesnt even bother to aim just a little - so long as he is in the general vicinity of the loo.

My mother has already had one stroke and she throws toilet paper on the guest floor bathroom where he pees. They still have company so they know it is filthy nasty to do - when company comes there is no piss on the floor. Its only slovenly enough for his family.

He also leaves the guest hall bathroom door open when he pisses. So I have sadly HEARD and seen my own father pissing on the floor as that bathroom is next to the kitchen. He has his own master bathroom but insists on shitting up both any and all bathrooms like a dog marking its territory.

One morning I walked upstairs and all he had on walking back to his bedroom (where there is a master bathroom) with nothing but t shirt on - and says HI to me like it wasnt anything.

He also comes downstairs where I stay in the basement without knocking before walking in. One day I was naked and dressing and he walks in saying I just have to print something off - I screamed DAD I AM NAKED - to which he said its okay I wont look. And proceeded to sit there at the computer desk printing out soduko puzzles for the next 20 minutes. No apology. No leaving the room. He has done this 3 times in one month.

The entire upstairs kitchen is filthy and I clean up after him over and over. He pulls food out - after NOT WASHING HIS HANDS AFTER PISSING ON THE FLOOR - butter, oil, fat, salad dressing all over the sink, handles, fridge door - crusty stuck on god knows what all over the damned place without any thanks or consideration for my cleaning up after his filth. He has always done this so its no special occasion. SURE I will move out soon - I cant and will not put up with this narcissistic pissing on family entitlement.

My mom takes the flat ware out of the dishwasher if I have not jumped on it straight away to empty it - and spills the flatware all over the drawer instead of into its easy to find sections. NOTHING NEW. She first did this when I was a teen and living home - she was pissed off and drunk as usual and decided to rebel. After countless attempts to straighten out the drawer - she continues to go back and turn the flatware bin upside down as if to piss on my efforts.

I am sick after 3 yrs of no illness after moving into my parents house to help out. I have a raging cold and two bouts of liquid trots. It is disgusting and there is no excuse for being disrespectful which is what this is.
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Hint to caretakers with folks who pee all over...or leak. Clean with white vinegar. I use it in the laundry and have even filled a spray bottle so that I can spray the carpet or floor as needed.
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Higgotwo...try a diaper type of thing...both Dad and MIL are "incontinent" They both use pads...very much like a kotex...but we have also used the diaper type when they were unable to get out of bed. It save on the stress of 'pee' all over. My guess is that he has some sort of dementia, or really angry about where he is. On MIL recliner ...she spend all ( and I mean all) her time there. she pees through the pad and rots out the chair! So I got some chux (they are tissues and back lined with plastic) It helps!! she actually changes the chux herself and also has a potty next to her to use. This she also keeps clean herself...why she can't gt to the bathroom is a good question but one that I don't worry about with the other things in place. Hint put a diaper genie near the commode...find them in the baby diaper section...it is a great find!! Very easy to use, and holds quite a lot of pads. controls odors and mess.
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We have a patient at a facility where i work that pees on the floor EVERYTIME! She has dementia AND a frontal lobe brain tumor. She seems alert, but will simply scoot to the edge of the bed and relieve herself.... occasionally she will walk to the bathroon and pee on the floor there. Her room ALWAYS smells disgusting and because we have to walk thru it she has ruined the carpet in the hallway outside her door so the whole wing smells horrible... every shift mops... it does nothing to help the smell. I don't know if her medications make her urine so pungent or what. I believe she belongs in a nursing home facility where she should be cathederized (yes, against her will if necessary) because she is a health threat to all involved... caregivers, other residents, and her own self... one day she will slip in a puddle and break her hip..... then maybe they will insert a cathader! Nobody should be left to just go on in this way, there are solutions, people just need to implement them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I found this link just now out of frustration with my dad doing this. At first we learned he was confused if he was dehydrated (he is recovering from some brain damage due to a high cholesterol drug). Then we took care of that. now he seems to do this when he is mad at us. Right now he is trying to tell us he needs more help. Then when we give him helpers he insists on women only and then enjoys the attention. We have a new helper living in. We told her yesterday to stop helping him so much. I knew that i was going to be woke with a puddle in the floor and in the bed. He seems to do this on purpose. He did it again today. I too work very hard and am not well due to taking care of him. He also would throw things on the floor with a 'i dont care attitude'. So annoying! He has three urinals by the bed. He urinates around them then says he couldnt get up in time. but he can use them laying down and he doesnt like doing that.
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I used to think my Dad did things on purpose but then later I realized he did these things because he was impaired and got frustrated as a result. Whatever the real situation is with your GP it sounds like he is a danger to himself as well as others and should be placed in the right kind of home.
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It could be that he is losing the cognitive abilities to sequence and problem solve the need to urinate in a socially appropriate manner. My mom lost the ability to use a call phone, which I did not think would happen, even though it had happened to my dad. I had wanted the speech or occupational therapist to teach Mom how to put her hearing aids in as I could set something up and get it working but it was almost never duplicated unless I came in and did it myself (if I had time to round up all the parts check batteries, etc.etc..!) and finally she did just tell me that Mom would not have the sequencing ability to manage all the steps invoved in that. Her not seeing the need for them - which frustrated me to no end, because our conversations were so much easier adn more pleasant when's she'd use aids - was more of a cover for not being able to manage something that she and I thought she could. That cell phone - it just didn't "work anymore"...

My mom was using "briefs" instead of regular underwear since before she even went into care, but always preferred to be taken to the toilet rather than use them. I'm always loathe to recommend them, espeically if its just a convenience to avoid having to help with toilet transfers - but there is a time and place when you just have to use appropriate incontinence products to give someone a little dignity (though they may not see it that way) and cleanliness.
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hi jean they have given him a urinal bottle - and he was using this but now this has changed - do you think maybe his alzheimers has gone to the next stage now and that part of his brain is shutting down? without be too personal they have said that his private parts are very small and has trouble putting it into the urinal bottle - so not sure what to suggest to them
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Would he accept and remember to use a plastic urinal bottle? He could stand up, use it where he is, and set it down for the every-two-hour folks to collect. This assumes he just doesn't want to/can't get as far as the bathroom, and he still can learn a new trick.
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