I don't seem to care too much about things anymore and prefer to just stay away from people.

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My better half has numerous health problems, recently he's had a heart attack & then 2 weeks after getting home he's back in hospital with pnumonia. He's very challenging to figure out what is going on. One day he seems sprite & cheerful, next day like he's coming down sick & sleeping all the time. I have noticed more & more over the last year I just want to stay home & be away from people. If I have to go to town I hurry I don't like being away from home for long, if I am I get upset & nervous. Things I used to care about are of no meaning to me now. No energy no interest, even wondering why I am writting this.

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Texas I hope his increased activity level continues!! Happy New Year to everyone on here!
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Well I think I found away to get his attention! I brought home the paperwork from the bank for him to add me to his bank account so I could handle his banking instead of always having to run back & fourth to town, it could easily be done via the internet. That very night he perked up & started staying awake more, and the next day he asked for a full meal & started to walk a bit more. Now 2 days later he's walking even a bit more & seems like (acting) less frail! And after I took a cat nap & woke up tonite he asked for milk, cheese & crackers, his fav snack!!!! Sure has perked me up! Of course talking with ya all has done wonders for me, believe it or not readin what ya all wrote made me feel less alone & somehow connected to the real world! God Bless ya all!
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cap - you are a riot!
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id be emjos heavy housekeeper but i expect a peek at some azzcrack. otherwise, no deal. kiddin ya emjo, your a cute woman and i have to be teasing someone to make life worth livin.
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I can identify with what has been written. It seems to me, texas, considering you have RA and a sick husband, you are doing quite a lot looking after your menagerie and him and you.
I am an introvert, and really do not need a lot of socialization, in fact, I need a lot of "space." Online forums are apparently good for introverts. It is OK to not want or need to mix much. I do lunch with one or another girlfriend once in a while - not often - see my kids and grandkids once in a while - then there is a little socializing with shopping - the same stores all the time so you get to know the staff a bit. Sig other is away a lot with work and his hobby (horses) and for the most part I am fine with that, as long as we connect with text messages and phone,
I "don't care" about some of the things I used to care about - volunteer work,. crafts, community groups... A good part of that is the getting older thing. I have a few health challenges - not really bad, but I still have to take better care of myself than I did. Veronica, the fatigue I understand. I have chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia - have had it for over 20 years, and then developed systemic candidiasis about 4 years ago when mother first moved. I think the stress was a contributing factor. I am much better and off meds now. My gut is in a somewhat precarious balance, but the first year or so, I could hardly drag myself out to bed to make supper. It was my one big effort of the day. However I consider myself fortunate as 40-45% don't survive it, and no thanks to the doctors I have here, as they did not have a clue how to treat it. I would love a housekeeper too - even just once or twice a month for the heavier stuff. Naps are a regular thing for me, especially if I am fighting any kind of bug/flu.
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Does Winter always make you feel this way? You may have SAD- seasonal affective disorder. The shorter winter days can make SAD patients quite depressed, sleepy, withdrawn. There are therapies for it, talk it over with your doctor. We are past the winter solstice, you may feel better as the days get longer.
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I want to thank everyone who has replied & a lot of you have come up with some valid points. As far as the anger, yes I will admit to anger entering into the picture sometimes. Last week I had a bit of an meltdown & told him exactly how I feel & exactly what he is doing to himself, well that night he was in a crappy mood but after he slept on it he said he realized that I only said things because I love him & he would try harder to eat & to move about. Well that lasted 1 day & right back to sleeping & not wanting to eat. His son came over on christmas and had a long talk with his Dad, again he did better but only a half day this time. I am at a loss what to do to motivate him & I don't understand as he has always been a very strong person with a very strong will to live. There MUST be something I am missing, something I should be catching or doing to help him, why can't I see it?
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people suck. a true friend is a very rare thing. i dont think theres anything wrong with turning inward until you meet that rarity worth your time and effort. the care your giving borders on superhuman effort, go easy on yourself.
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Thinking about this today I think Jinx hit the nail on the head "we are all getting older" well most of us anyway although there are a few younger caregivers. Those caring for much older parents feel they can't just be "old" and relax. Those caring for 90 + parents have mostly been retired for a while and see their peers taking off for vacations and enjoying clubs and other activities but they are not jealous, it is just too much effort. Ask yourself would you hire a 75 year old caregiver who walked with a cane? This is the situation so many family caregivers find themselves in no surprise they can think of nothing more than getting from one end of the day to the other. Add some personal health problems into the mix and of course you don't feel like making an effort. Since I was ill in the Fall I really don't feel like cooking but hubby still feels like eating. I just feel exhausted by the time the meal is on the table. I expect I will bounce back. but household tasks no longer interest me and I would love a housekeeper - fat chance of that I would rather spend my time on more creative things but end up taking a nap. it is all about making the best of what you have.
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Care giving has changed all of us!! What and especially who interested me before doesn't anymore.. My priorities have changed, not in a bad way, but I've learned a lot about my so called siblings and friends. My time is limited, so when I have free time I know who I will spend it with..

The saying "Those who know me, know me well, those who don't can go to hell" comes to mind...

There's nothing wrong with being "content" with your life, it is your "life" afterall....
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