Don't make assumptions!
I keep reading posts here that posit problems based on false assumptions, i.e., my mom will decline in a facility, my dad will lose his independence if he goes to AL, my parents would never leave their home, I have to care for my parents because it's the moral thing to do, my parents have a house so they can't be eligible for Medicaid, all care facilities want to do is drug elders, antidepressants only work if you want to be happy.
Please, don't make life-altering choices based upon what your neighbor, cousin or friend told you. Consult with an Elder care attorney, Geriatric doctor or Geriatric psychiatrist, geriatric RNs, NPs,social workers and other professionals in the field.
And please remember that YOUR life and happiness count for something!