Mom lives w/me and refuses to exercise, eat on our schedule, and now refuses cancer treatment.
I do not want to deal with her. She is 82, dresses like a teenager, even refuses a coat on cold days. She is a nightmare on bath day. Refuses a bather or dedicated caregiver. On bathday which is about every 7 to 10 days at best, she becomes verbally abusive. She refuses to go to a podiatrist yet let her driver trim her toenails then complained because he cut her toe. And now she is refusing radiation for her rare cancer which will push into her brain and push out her eyeballs. My doctors tell me to avoid her as much as possible. She refuses to eat on any normal schedule and I have to eat on a schedule due my own health issues. I called her oncology social worker today and the state is coming out to evaluate her. I am done. she is incontinent--uses 150 depends and maternity pads monthly, has to use a grabber to get the depends on, has refused any exercise so now she can barely walk at a snail's pace, uses a walker or wheelchair depending, and refuses to see a dentist so she has to have soft food. Bath day is a nightmare and she curses me and says there is no law to make her take a bath. I am not sorry..if you pee in diapers it is not too much to ask to bathe weekly. She locks herself in the shower. How crazy is that? None of her verbal abuse has endeared me to her. She stopped taking klonopin when she moved in. her neurologist has suggested an anti-depressant but no no no she refuses one. I am done and my hope is social services will put her in a facility where she goes to bed before 3 am, eats on a schedule, has assistance with bathing, is around others to talk with, and maybe gets treatment for her cancer. I love her but she too much. I had to cancel hbo because she was watching pornography all night. Blows your mind doesn't it?