I'm so disappointed! Fake posters on here.

you guys think this site has some nuts -- you should try the hepc site back when we all took interferon . wow .. up to 25 % stopped treatment because their minds cracked ..

Have any of you seen "August Osage County" with Julia Roberts? Talk about a dysfunctional family. Some scenes really hit home.

Who knows? It could be true. The image that comes to my mind is Big Edie and Little Edie from Grey Gardens.

Plus her mother is supposedly worth millions. So Dust says anyway ;)

What I find disappointing is when someone like Dusty claims the site is demon-infested, pagan, is not a charity or non-profit (where does it say that it IS not for profit?), and is populating her computer with ads - but when someone takes the time to explain in very basic terms how to fix the problems she's experiencing with her computer....well then, all of a sudden she's a researcher and systems analyst at the biggest computer company in the world. Interesting. Yet, despite all this various and sundry experience she claims to have, she has no idea how to remove adware and malware from her own computer and blames it on this site - or on demons - or both. And if we try to bring her back to reality, then WE are demonic, jealous, alcoholics or all of the above. At one point not long ago, Dusty was claiming she never cleaned the house, just walked over the trash and debris, was not answering the phone or the door because she feared the bill collectors because she wasn't paying the bills, and that her mother was crazy and she couldn't stand to be around her. Then she was a former Wall Street stock broker turned day trader. Now she's a former employee at a big computer firm.

I truly fear for her mother's safety, if she actually *is* caring for her mother. This person is truly disturbed and needs serious help.

It's written in a style that seems familiar, and yet the poster's name is different. Is that what you meant?

Sodone: OOOpps
GA: See if you can locate a post with the title" Burnt out ...And only two weeks"
I don't have a name for the poster. Tell me what you think.

SoDoneWithThat, If I remember correctly Marlon Brando was in one of the StreetCar productions. His presence alone is worth watching it!

Luanner, glad the analogy could help. As to why people troll, shutdown websites or even hack, I think it's more than just having time on their hands from not having legitimate jobs. There's a criminal intent involved with these people.

Have you ever read about the attacks on American government sites? The DOD, SOS, Los Alamos and others have been hacked, some by the Chinese. I've read that the Russians are busy hacking as well. That's only the government attacks - what about all the scumbags who hack banks and financial institutions and steal thousands of credit card numbers?

Unfortunately, I suppose there will always be a criminal element too lazy or stupid to do legitimate work and which will find ways to behave in socially unacceptable ways that could affect all of us.

The more I've been on this site the more I'm begining to realize that there are more trolls here than on any forum on which I've spent time. I think the topics discussed are ripe for troll attacks, and this is also a predominantly female forum, so the responses are almost always sympathic and supportive rather than suspicion that we're being played.

I always go by the "take what you want and leave the rest" attitude. We all need something different. Some are sicker than others. I do not post often but read postings everyday. It does help to know I'm not a alone in the insane world of caregiving and when I'm "feeling sorry for myself" i can come here and reassure myself that it's all going to be ok.....

Two great productions I need to see again. I am not even sure I have ever seen Streetcar Named Desire all the way through.

Luanner, it was Blanche DuBois in Tennessee Williams' play, A Streetcar Named Desire, who said that about depending on the kindness of strangers, but otherwise you're right.

Hey GA, tnx for the info. Your example of the people standing outside of Walmart (used to work there) made complete sense to me. I understand how reposting could shut down a site, although it seems it would take tens of thousands. So many people with too much time on their hands. The only reason I can think of that would make them want to shut us down is that they are jealous of the REAL friendships that are made here. If only they could spend a day or so in our shoes, they might not be so jealous, huh. Hey maybe we could find a way to ask them to spend some of that free time with our respective LOs and we could get a break ];-)).
Several people commented that they consider the 'regulars' on this site as friends. I feel the same way. Scarlett O'Hara said " I have always depended on the kindness of strangers" Yes, we are strangers to each other, in that we have never met. But we are friends in ways that not all are lucky enough to share. This horrifying illness has brought us together and made us the very definition of "friend"
And I think I have become the definition of ' long winded'
Love to you all and remember " MEAN PEOPLE SUCK"

Don't forget when it comes to a *private* website, which Agingcare is, they can put into place whatever rules they want regarding what can or cannot be posted. Same with other private websites such a newspapers, ESPN, etc. that have blogs.

Keep your demons close and the rest of us closer.

Captain, we all need a few new demons, it keeps life interesting....

im done with google search engine . they track you so strongly that your search is customized to what they think you want to hear . i want to search the world , not the road that google points me down . im using duckduckgo . search results are not tailored to a persons web browsing history .
i appreciate the new demons sent my way . life would be a bag of suck without them ..

Absolutely address it with them Assa.... the person posting needs to know this is not how we love and support..... Ya'll know I refer to God all the time... and when , what I call a 'God freak' comes on here, we all get upset...... I wasn't saying don't address it.... I was saying there will always be posters that strike us the wrong way..... guess what I am trying to say is.... my energy is in such limited supply, I just try to not give it to those that will end up leaving anyway.... we do have the right to say something to them....I do on occasion.... we don't need all that noise.... I agree completely... but I can just see 'dusty' clapping her little hands with black nail polish.... and enjoying how she managed to upset a whole site full of people..... always do what you heart guides you to do in those situations...... guess I have just been on here long enough to know that the posters will 'get it' that is not how we do things... I love you girl.... and you know that.... so do what feels right for you !!!!

LadeeM I hear what your saying about not participating in questions that you are suspicious of... It's just the ones where some poor soul needs guidance and some nitwit scares them off with their "better than you" "lord and damnation" attitude...

I have to admit sometimes I have to physically restrain myself from putting them in their place..

UH OH Bonni.... maybe the demons intercepted it..... try again.... unless it was threatening or full of curse words..... you might want to contact admin and find out what happened..... did you hit 'submit' ??? lol

The world has a lot of evil.... why are ya'll surprised that it seeps thru on our site...???? Last I checked, we still live in 'Murica, and there is still free speech.... the deal is to ban together and get the negativity off our safe place.... just look at it as a challenge to our 'sisterhood and Captain'.....I don't let just anyone in my home or in my space... I take action to prevent that.... just as we did.... so it's all good... right?....

I've had a few situations of people literally going for my jugular..... thing is.. I am still here and they are not..... but at the same time we don't want to get a 'mob mentality' or become the AC Police...... that's what we have admin for..... we aren't going to like everyone,like the way they post, or their subject matter... so don't participate in the ones you find offensive.....How can we stay positive and supportive and still allow this to be a place for people to come, with being so judgmental sometimes..... I'm not saying don't address a poster that is causing problems..... but again.... AC has set up mods to take care of things like that.... we have a choice if we allow someone to get us sidetracked. I never read Dusty after her first few posts..... if I already know what it's going to say, why keep reading it.....????? That's just my little 2 cents here, but we need to get real about the world we live in..... I would think on any given day, admin has their hands full with all of us.... hugs to you all.....

FYI, when you sign in to Facebook or your Gmail, you activate their 'spy' aps. So, even if you close the web page, you are still being followed. So, when you go to FB, then switch to this site, their spy ap is recording everything you type here. So, whenever I check my gmail or yahoo mail or aol.com emails, I Sign Out. It's bad enough when I google Travelecity for info, those darn cities keep popping up wherever I go on the site , like "see, here''s more info on Honolulu.." I have several emails. One just for family. One just for my online orders. One for Agingcare. One for online subscriptions like The Word for Today, recipes, and Webmd, etc... And one just for my online friends. This way I compartmentalize what email I want to check on and not just read scrolling down all those advertisement ads/spam.

Jeezaloo, Dusty can say what she wants, but MY post was deleted. What's up with that AC?

I too, am very grateful for this site. Things I post here, I would NEVER post on Facebook!

A&A, some people are most definitely taking advantage of the compassion, understanding and overwhelming willingness to help displayed here.

Some are more sophisticated than others, including one who shall remain nameless who led many of us on a merry chase before accidentally tripping up by revealing conflicting information in a subsequent post. But I suspect he/she will be back in a few weeks or months, with another well crafted story to tear at our individual and collective heartstrings.

What I've never figured out is why these people don't channel their efforts toward something positive, and why and how they've becomeso perverted that they find delight in tricking others.

Obviously there's some social dysfunction there - maybe they're the traditional geeks who are devoid of interpersonal skills, living on junk food and pop surrounded by banks of computers in a dismal dark room where they spend most of their waking lives.

I just saw this post today and love it. (My youngest got married on Saturday, so I haven't had much time to read posts for a few days.) I continue to be amazed at the intelligence and wit displayed by the members. Personally, I have wondered about some of the weird comments and questions I have read, but I just chalked it up to "different strokes for different folks" and ignored them. I did click on "report this post" a couple of months ago when I read one that was obviously a scam sales pitch. When I checked back a few hours later, the post was gone. People who post fake stuff for their own amusement must not really be caregivers because real caregivers don't have the time! I am not very technologically savvy, so I appreciate the work of the administrators and users of this site to keep it "clean". Like others have said, I consider many frequent posters on this site to be my friends, even though we have never met.

I've been thinking about my post and have come to the realization that what's most upsetting is, that I think of everyone here as a Kindred Heart...A Special friend in my time of need...And I just feel some are taking advantage of the weary...

Maybe I'm just feeling all sympathetic but I absolutely hate when people are just plain mean!!

I only use facebook to keep up with my "horsey" friends(we have horses) make only comments I wouldn't mind yelling out in the middle of the street otherwise I keep off of it. I thank God for this sight. Being able to vent to others going thru the same experiences has been invaluable to me.Some of the people I know I could never say I hate my mother etc. they just wouldn't understand because their parents are either dead or still in good health.

Luanner, a distributed denial of service is a malevolent attempt to shut down a website by overwhelming it with posts. I don't know how it's done technically - that's way beyond my level.

But from what I've read, some hackers can either coordinate, or by using malware take over innocent folks' computers, and initiate posts ranging from simultaneously to repeatedly at short intervals. If your computer is compromised, you lose control of it as it's turned into a robot for the hackers.

Perhaps a nontechnological comparison could be the lines of people that camp out overnight and jam stores on the day after Thanksgiving. There are so many of them that the stores literally can't conduct business, although they somehow manage to do, but sometimes not without injury to customers.

In your mind, multiply the numbers that camp out by a factor of 10 or so, and you'll see that the crowds would be so large no one could even move.

The website becomes overwhelmed with so many posts and literally shuts down. This is a good explanation of how a DDOS works: searchsecurity.techtarget/definition/distributed-denial-of-service-attack.

This article provide information on the extent of DDOS attacks: computerweekly/news/2240223221/More-action-needed-to-stop-NTP-DDoS-attacks-says-report

If the links are deleted by the admins, Google "DDOS Attacks".

These are strictly negative, malevolent and vicious attacks designed to completely shut down a targeted website.

Hope this helps.


GladI'mHere, the fact that information is so freely shared on Facebook, mined and gleaned for advertising purposes, is one of the reasons Zuckerberg has become a billionaire - he collects personal information voluntarily posted on Facebook and leverages it into advertising.

Thanks Luanner, great idea! I do not think it should be that difficult. Like AC we can see how our profile looks to others.

Glad
Here's what I did. I set up a FB page in my husbands name. Then go to your page and you will see what strangers see. Then, friends yourself, go to your page and you can see what your friends see.

What I do not like about Facebook is there does not seem to be a way to look at my own profile the way other people see it. It has become so commercialized the ads that appear on my page are different that what appears on others pages because of the market research capabilities that they have. It gives me the creeps to think that someone is that interested in my posts and likes that they would conduct research to determine what I may be likely to buy? Actually done by some sort of an app, but all that means is that everyone is watched like this.