Did Hospice rush your loved ones death?

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I have posted on here many times and answered questions every now and then. Dad passed away Oct 7th 2013 from Liver Cancer . He was in a hospice facility for 11 days until he died. The day before he was admitted he was in the hospital and was talking,eating and very clear headed but his ammonia levels were high and he had been very combative, not eating and wouldn't take his meds for 4 days at his nursing home. ( He was in for a Psych Evaluation.) The hospice worker talked to me about admitting him instead of returning to the nursing home. I agreed to this and arrangements were made. He was transferred later that day and was alert and in good spirits. The next morning he was unresponsive and stayed that way until he passed. They gave him morphine and ativan around the clock. He never got any water but they did cleanse his mouth and moisten it with swabs. It seemed like he could hear me the first few days because I would shake his shoulder and say "dad". His eyes seemed to be moving under his eyelids and his mouth would move slightly. I did ask about them lowering his dosages so he could wake up a little. The nurse said he was getting a very small dosage already. I just wonder if the drugs made him unresponsive and if less was used he could have ate and drank and lived longer. I know it was time for him to go but I'm kinda puzzled about his going from complete alertness and straight into unresponsiveness so quick. The nurses did a Great job. I myself don't know how they do it. They treated dad like he was their baby. So gentle and compassionate. I was just wondering if anyone else had the feeling that death felt a little rushed once their loved one was placed in Hospice.

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Rosie123 I was the only caregiver to Mom. I had no complaints regarding Hospice help which was limited. I am grateful.
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Rojan99 my mother had no problem getting IV antibiotic etc. infusions for her UTIS which was often I had no problem requesting she had a private Insurance and Medicare, I was very active in Mom care. Whether they said no I was insistent.nShe is MY Mother and Had the final say, they were not (Hospice)around all day and night,
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Well, if I were dying of pancreatic cancer, I would sure welcome morphine!  I suspect that in many cases, family members do not see or feel things from the patient's view.   If you take painkillers they will likely make you "drugged" - so?? Better to be in agony?  Fact is, we are all going to die.  Family says "well, she was this bad lost year but she recovered." That does not mean she will this year.
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it was horrible. the first day , like you said, he could still talk, he said" this place is a torture chamber". And I did not get him out. .....I am sorry, Paul.
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Read the side affects of Ativan
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me too
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The hospital told Hospice that my 73 year old brother had Lung Cancer so my brother had a stroke back July 12 2012 was paralyzed on the right side he had one of those motorized wheel chairs he went to get in the wheel chair from his bed like he always did but it pulled him out of bed and he landed on the floor he was really in pain it looked like his leg was broken I am disabled so I couldn't get him in his pajamas everytime I tried he said it hurt so I called Hospice two nurses came a guy and a woman I tried to tell them that his leg was broken and they just talked to each other and said he had a broken hip and if he went to the hospital that they would want to do surgery and my brother would die, they told me they could take him and help him with pain that they had better food then hospital and I could even go too my brother kept asking me if he should go I said well it sounds better then what I can do so the guy nurse said he would be back at 1:30 am to pick him up so they picked my brother up and got there at 2:30 am May 13, 2018 so I called at 3:00 am they said he was resting and when ever I called they said he was resting, on May 14, 2018 a priest called and asked if he could go see my brother I said well ask him he said well he is sleeping okay if I can't wake him I will call you back he called me back and said the nurse told him that my brother wasn't waking up in the near future and I didn't know what he mean't by that my sister told the nurse to keep the priest away, so then on May 15, 2018 the nurse called me and said that my brother was like in a coma me and my sister said we were on our way we were an hour away we were almost there and they called and told me my brother died yeah all they did was give him morphine they said they didn't feed him or give him water when they gave him the morphine he never woke up, then I found out he had a broken leg not hip and that he didn't have Lung Cancer or any Cancer and they acted like he was going to die any day telling him that so if I would have taken him to the emergency room instead my brother would still be alive.
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I'm sure that hospice has its place in certain circumstances, and they do a good job of easing the pain and comforting the dying. But it shouldn't be an absolute death sentence and routine medical care should be provided.

The overwhelming majority of people going onto hospice are elderly and on medicare. Their rule is that you can't use medicare benefits (see a doctor) when you're on hospice, so you're effectively sealed off from any treatment what so ever, even for a simple and routine UTI.

I can understand that terminal illnesses will no longer be treated, but hospice providers neglect to treat anything except for discomfort and they ignore everything else. The only solution they have to anything is to throw morphine and ativan on it. I'd be interested to find out how many hospice patients actually died from their terminal illness as opposed to a routine medical condition that was neglected.

By design, since you're no longer allowed to seek a doctors care for any reason what so ever, death is certain and hospice becomes a way to quickly dispose of the elderly in order to save medicare money. In it's present implementation, it is non-voluntary euthanasia by neglect.
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they gave him methadone without any counseltation, even though i asked for a conference with the doctor, I could not get one. It was worse than horrible to see him die like that
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