Dementia and paranoia.
My 93 year old mother is in the moderate to late stages of dementia, and resides in AL. Last night around 9:30 pm she called to say she had no more trash bags and that her trash hadn't been picked up. This morning she called at 8:30 am saying she'd put the trash outside the door and it was gone but she still had no more trash bags. She said that the aides were "acting differently" towards her when she asked about this situation - "I know them pretty well, and things happen like clockwork usually." When I said that the situation was likely something unusual (perhaps a resident or more than one needed additional help or there was some other type of emergency yesterday) and probably nothing to do with her, she began to argue with me....."I'm not a baby and not used to everything being done for me." I basically just talked her down at that point but I know my mother and she absolutely WILL NOT let this go so know I'm in for more of the same the next time we talk. Mom has been extremely self centered her entire life and this is just being exacerbated at this point. One would think that all of the personalized attention would be welcome with her personality but, of course, they also want her to do things like bathe regularly, etc. that she absolutely hates and fights with them about. Anyway, just looking for any input from those that may be experiencing something similar and suggested approaches if something other than what I'm doing may be helpful. Thanks!