Death and Social Media.
I just lost my Mom. It was an agonizing death and long drawn out. I am haunted by the images and sounds and it was a quiet few hours after wards for me. Then I started calling her grandkids to let them know. I waited till they were each home from work so that I didn't upset them on the road or in public. Wishing 20 minutes the grandchild in another State that knew her the least started posting on Facebook. By the time I was calling my cousins they said they already Had to Find Out on Facebook! I was shocked, I had no idea someone would start posting things like it was some Trending Topic. I understand that everyone grieves differently and all that, but this is a good time to think about letting people know your needs as soon as you tell them of a passing. There is some Social Media etiquette, but let's face it, a lot of Social Media people aren't up on their Emily Post. I should have told people, "Give me time to notify all family and friends before you start posting things and getting "likes". I'm having a hard time and would like some time to tell family and friends by telephone. Set either a time frame like 24-72 hours or whatever you need before having people post. Facebook can be a wonderful place to share memories and pictures and receive comfort, just make sure you're not taking over the announcements and hijacking someone's bereavement. Usually the one taking care of all the necessary details is the one who is blindsided. I hadn't even had my Mom's body moved before I was getting "Why didn't you tell me?" demands. Anyway. This is an important subject to talk about with family and friends in this time of technology