I'm a caregiver dealing with what was thought to be Alzheimer's in my Mom (81). Turns out she has had syphillis for almost 40+ years.
I'm exhausted, what she really has is called neuro syphillis, it mimics Alzheimer's.
My mom is also a sociopath, who never thinks anything about her is wrong, hence walking around living with this diease for 40 yrs. I never remember going to a doctor ever while I was growing up. I'm burnt out and also disabled, from a car accident. The doctors tell me it's like a train wreck with trying to medically deal with her mental capacity. The neuro syphillis has ravaged her body, so many cardiovascular issues and of course it's eating away at her brain. Alzheimer's causes memory loss, neuro syphillis drives you mad. She does not want to go to daycare, in her mind that means something wrong with her, by the way she is also in denial about the neuro syphillis. I'm also afraid of what she might do in daycare, like I said she is a sociopath, she abused me as a child. I forgave her, because it was more for my peace of mind. My therapist in my 20's requested she attend a session with me, but she would not go. We didn't think she would, but at least we tried. I sought counseling as a adult to help deal with the abuse, it helped tremendously as well as my faith in God. Having her re-enter my life again, has been a world wind of calculated mind games and lies, but I know her so well at this point I call her out on her mess as soon as I see it. As I've mention she is a sociopath, when she first arrived it was pretty bad. My brother who is even worst off than her, was abusing her financially. I had my daughter go get her from another state, I flew there a couple of years ago to take her to the doctor, when I noticed she would constantly repeat herself in our daily phone calls. The Dr there diagnosised it as Alzheimer's. Little did I know at the time what really was the issue. Once I got her back up North, I took her to my neurologist who did a battery of test. Being a new patient, they tested her for everything. It was discovered then that she had the syphillis. Like I said, she is a sociopath and she makes up stuff and will even lie. I'm afraid if I force the daycare, she might cause them problems. Sorry for the long story I just felt I needed to give a little background information. Here's example of her abusive ways, whenever I would confront her over something she has done, she would say your screaming at me and abusing me. She only will do this if I confront her over things she has done that she knows is wrong. So to make sure she was not hearing voices or anything, I told her "now look, you're going to be going to these new Dr's here, they are not going to be playing around with you" Yes or no are you hearing voices telling you I'm screaming at you, or are you making this up? because the last thing you're going to want is having a Dr place you on meds for mental illness and you making it all up. She then proceeds to say, I'm whatever you say I am and I immediately tell her stop it and right now. She thens tells me ok ok I lied sorry. So this is the kind of thing I'm worried about, as far as the daycare goes. Accusing someone of abuse because you don't like them corrected you is a serious matter. If anyone can help, I'd appreciate it, I just don't want anyone else to have to deal with this maddness