Mom got on a tear Saturday (caregiver gave me the weekend off so this is through her eyes but I trust what she is saying) about how Mom is the boss and she can do whatever she wants, but what she wants to do isn't safe for her to do, i.e. iron, dress herself by standing up, cooking, going outside in 104 heat index weather to pull weeds, etc. Caregiver said she was like this ALL DAY and would pitch a fit and then cry because she was so angry. Mom called her brother and told him how mean we have been to her and he asked Mom (phone was on speaker so Mom could hear) how I have been treating Mom. Mom told him I have been mean to her and that she was going to talk to me about it. I guess I am mean by keeping her at home and trying to keep her safe and out of either the ground or a nursing home. I DARE him to say something to me about it and tell me to be more "patient" with her. I am trying, I really am!
Mom told me this morning that someone is coming to the house to clean the yards (we already have a lawn service to cut the grass) because there are some bushes that are out of control. I have no problem with anything that touches the house, but now Mom wants to cut down the bushes between her driveway and the yard next door, and the trees beyond the fence. Mom backs up to vacant land and Mom wants all the trees on her property cut down. Ain't gonna happen! A few years ago, Mom wanted ALL the pine trees cut down in the front yard and it cost $12,000.00!! Daddy let her do it, but I don't see it as necessary.
Anyone have any advice on how to deal with someone who has no concept on what it takes to care for her? She wanted to go to the grocery store Saturday and she cannot understand how 2 people need to take her; one to push the wheelchair and one to push the buggy. I have taken her by myself before and it is about impossible to push the wheelchair and pull the buggy behind you. I won't do it again.
I get that she is bored at home but everytime we suggest something she says no. We have offered for her to go do the Senior Citizens Center in town but her response was "they are all old". I have tried and tried to get the ladies from the church, and her neighbors, to come and visit but they just won't. Mom is very limited on what she can do and so I have tried to get her involved in other things but she refuses.