Please help, newbie with pull ups/Depends for mom--I need guidance!
Mom was just in rehab for two months as she fell (again) and broke a bone. She NEVER had incontinence issues EVER,until she got there and fell while she was there also. This is totally new ground for me. She has being using the pull up Depends 24/7 at the rehab center, but she just came home like 12 minutes ago and I don't know how to do this!! She has mid stage dementia and asking her to remember something never works. She has a little difficulty communicating what hurts and where, so if I were to ask her if the pull up was wet, she may not answer accurately either.
So here's my questions:
1. How can I tell when she's "wet?" When my girls were babies I'd feel the diaper near the crotch and rub the diaper between my thumb and finger to see if it was wet/slippery while the babies were laid down on the bed. This doesn't seem appropriate for my 80 year old mother, but how on earth do I check?!!
2. When am I supposed to "change" her? Once a day?Twice a day? 8 times a day?
3. How do I explain to her why she needs to wear them? her feelings are VERY easily hurt. I need to keep her underpants away from her as I don't want her to change into them and pee all over my bed! Any advice on how to say "Guess what, you have no underpants now mom?"
4. I have an appointment with her doctor tomorrow and I am hoping that this is a temporary issue because of some newly developed medical problem. Also, she had a hysterectomy about 5 years ago. Has anyone had any experience with this potentially being a medical issue?
Thanks so very much. I know this is easy for some of you, but this is so very foreign to me. I want to love mom and at the same time not have my house smelling of pee. When I picked her up, her clothes all stank of urine so I have them in the washer now. Also, I was told that she would take the pull ups off at night (as they were wet) and then hang them on the side of the bed to dry (wearing nothing to bed and peeing all over the bed). OMG, any advice on all of this?