Caregiver looking for coping mechanisms to deal with stress and guilt.
Hi. I feel like i'm at a breaking point and after googling support groups I came across this board. It seems to be the most friendly of the bunch so I thought i'd give it a shot. I appreciate you taking the time to read this..
I'm a 29 yr old female and took care of my grandmother in her home for over a year before she passed away in August 2011. She was bedridden (We had a hospital bed in the den) which meant she needed complete and total care... feeding, bathing, turning every 2 hrs to prevent bed sores, diaper changes, etc. After she passed away we noticed a sudden change in my 93 yr old grandpa (as i understand is common) I moved two houses down from him in order to be closer and to be able to help out more (my parents also live nearby) Last week he fell and sustained two large gashes on his forehead but thankfully no broken bones. Since then he just has not been himself. Medically, everything has checked out just fine. He's just much slower, confused much more often and is needing assistance for everyday tasks such as brushing his teeth or taking his (presorted) pills. I've been spending my days and nights here every since the fall and I find myself feeling overwhelmed thinking of what lies ahead. I bounce back and forth between the extreme sadness of seeing him decline so rapidly and the guilt I feel when I start to get discouraged about going through this again. As challenging as this is, an assisted living facility just isn't an option. I'd never have the heart to take him from the home he shared with my grandma for 64 years unless it was absolutely medically necessary. However, given his current condition, I may need to give up my apt. and move in with him. I suppose i'm looking for suggestions on coping mechanisms you all might use? Ways to deal with the guilt when I start to feel like "why me"? Again, thanks for taking the time to read this.. i'd appreciate any feedback