Dead bolts on all doors!

Follow
Share

I often read or hear about dementia patients leaving their homes and wandering outside and family members have to go searching for them. There is absolutely no excuse for this! All it takes is for the caregiver to call a locksmith, and he will gladly oblige with a dead bolt and several keys, and of course the patient will never have a key; it will not be possible to leave the house. I don't know why all caregiver spouses don't automatically do this before the wandering begins. I have three doors in our house that needed dead bolts, and it cost me just over $700, but it was well worth it because I can sleep peacefully now knowing that there is no way in the world my husband cannot open any of the doors while I'm asleep. He has tried and has asked for a key, and I told him that I did this for his own safety and for my piece of mind. He has finally accepted my decision.

This discussion has been closed for comment. Start a New Discussion.
15

Comments

Show:
Willows, we're not trying to be judgemental or negative. We couldn't tell from your original post how experienced you were. Please accept my apologies, and please stay. We learn from each other.
(2)
Report

Willows, if you reread your original post, you will find you wrote some negative connotations about caregivers having no excuse for allowing dementia patients from wandering. I applaud you for doing whatever you can to keep your spouse safe. Hope you can find some positive support to help you in your caregiver journey.
(2)
Report

Willow, sounds like you are becoming burnt out from being your husband's full-time caregiver. You are not alone, there are many on this forum who are experienced Caregivers who are trying to give you advice and some heads up on various situations.
(2)
Report

Fregflyer, nobody is locked inside a house in case of a fire! What is it with you people? My husband wouldn't know enough to escape a fire even if all three doors were left unlocked. He would freeze. I am leaving this ill-begotten "caregiver forum." There is such a negative atmosphere here, I can't stand it. GOODBYE!
(0)
Report

Pamstegman, my husband is NEVER alone! What gave you that notion? And to whom would 911 respond? My husband wouldn't know enough to call 911. He doesn't know how to use a cell phone. As for hanging that 911 thingie around his neck, he wouldn't know what to do with it. I am an experienced caregiver, who worked with Alzheimer's patients in their homes for several years before I quit in order to stay home with my husband so you are not chatting with a neophyte here. I know what I'm doing.
(0)
Report

W. Im assuming that you have someone with your husband 24/7 and that someone always has the key on their person. So Pam's situation won't obtain. But my uncle's dementia advanced and he became assaultative. No to be a downer, it may never happen to you. Just want you to think a coupleof steps down the road . Good thoughts!
(1)
Report

If you look around on this site, you will read where 911 responds, finds the elder locked in alone and immediately reports this to the county social services. The caseworker comes out, again finds the elder alone and locked in. The POA will be charged with abuse/neglect. You don't ever want that on your personal record, trust me.
(2)
Report

My knee jerk reaction to your post was "no-way no-how", however every family must make decisions based on their own circumstances, and I am glad that your choice is working out for you. Personally, just the PITA factor of having to key lock the door every time anyone enters/exits would make it impractical.
(2)
Report

Willows, one can put door alarms on the exterior doors of the house that would alert you and the rest of the house that the door is opening. That is a lot safer than being locked in a house should there be a fire or another 911 type call out. It's easy to say we would do this or that in an emergency, such as a fire, but it's another story when one is actually facing that emergency.
(0)
Report

How is my husband going to be trapped inside? If a fire were to break out, he is in a state now where he wouldn't know what to do. I really resent your overly dramatic nonsense! We have smoke alarms throughout our large Victorian style home. If it were necessary to get out, I, my daughter, and my son-in-law each have a key at our fingertips. Do you not think that our situation was talked about and thought about before we took action? How would you like it if you woke up one morning at 6:30 and found your husband in the front yard on his back with the back of his head lying against the concrete because he had sneaked out? THAT'S when he could have died, had not my grandson found him and run yelling into the house. He found him because he was out that early with the dog before leaving for his first class at school!

I know what I'm doing! I have already "thought twice about those locks." That's why I had them installed!!!
(1)
Report

This discussion has been closed for comment. Start a New Discussion.
Related
Questions