My dad is a wreck. He's had Type II Diabetes for almost 20 years. He's overweight, drinks too much, and doesn't take care of himself.
My mom passed away almost 5 years ago, so he doesn't have someone in his ear nagging at him. My brother and I are at our whit's end. Last year our dad was recently diagnosed with congestive heart failure and kidney disease. He was hospitalized after he thought he had a stroke. He's on a ton of medications too.
Last week he was back in the hospital and now is diagnosed with AFIB.
He's overweight and we've discovered that he's drinking way too much. He hides it too. He drinks vodka during the day. A swig here, a swig there. He thinks we don't know, but we notice.
We've already had a sitdown with him to discuss his poor health and bad habits. We've caught him lying about his drinking.
But he's a stubborn man. He watches Fox News all the time, which has made him bitter.
He's not taking care of himself and we've told him that he's on the path to either a stroke, heart attack, or death.
He tells us that he's gonna change. But we all know that he's not. He's never exercised (except when my mom made him go when she was dying with cancer 5 years ago). He's NEVER eaten healthy. He always adds salt to everything.
He skips meals and sneak drinks, which is a recipe for disaster for someone who's a Type II Diabetic.
He brought up the idea of looking at some type of assisted living, which we were very happy to hear. If it's his idea, he'll be more likely to do this.
But he wants to move to an assisted living facility 3 hrs away from us, at the beach. We told him that we can't help him if he moves- my brother and I both have young kids. His girlfriend even said she's not too keen on him moving.
I'm at a point where I don't know what to do. As cold hearted as this sounds, I think the best route is to let him drink himself to death. Make it fast. He's not going to change.
My brother is trying to get him to move closer to him, but it's not gonna happen.
Is it wrong to sit back and let my dad slowly kill himself?
As I mentioned, he's stubborn as a mule and what's really bad is that he lies. We can't trust him. He lies so much that he fools himself. He thinks he'll start eating right and exercise... something he hasn't done his entire adult life. Why would he start now?