Dad (91) had a pace maker put in August. I am his daughter and have been his caretaker for the last 4 years.
My Dad has dementia plus medical problems. He still lives on his own in a senior residence I am his legal POA and Medical Surrogate. I do all of his finances( bills , rent. cleaning, shopping ( groceries and sometimes eating out. I have had no help from anyone in my family except for my Husband. Since his brains is affected ( he gets so confused and he mixes people. places. He is very gullible at time. Mean at time. Not all there. And that is what scares me, Real PROBLEM I have one daughter and two granddaughters. In the past they had taken money from my Dad. When I starting taking full care of my Dad, money was only given for birthday, holiday, graduations. My daughter flipped, Dad got nervous and said he wasn't choosing between his daughter and his great granddaughter. Granddaughter has not since him or visited him in over 3 years, Great granddaughter has only been coming around for the last 3 weeks . They have decided that they want to be his POA and handle his money, and his medical decisions . They want me not to be involved. My Dad got agitated with them. I got it verbally . I was told to ALWAYS protect my Dad because all they ever wanted was his money. I have done this until now. The Vultures are circling. I found them at his apt today, talking to him about changing his POA. I am not sure but can a POA be changed if the person is not all there, confused, forgets were he is. I am ready to pull my hair out. I have M/S and it isn't getting better. Can they do this. I want to protect my Dad like I always have. No one wanted to stepup before. Know there is money on the horizon (lawsuit) and here they are. Sorry I ranted so long but this is serious