Her attitude is very negative and bitter about taking care of Mom and yet she refuses to let us step in and bring Mom to live with us. She has put herself on Mom's checking account and complains she needs more money to care for Mom. Mom told me that she is afraid of her. How do I go about getting Mom out of there without tipping my hand? I am afraid she will lash out at Mom if she figures out what I am about to do. I would like to administer a sound gourd thumping to her for terrorizing our mother.