I'm the sole caregiver for my 78 yr old mom. Friends & family won't deal with it. My mom→altheimers. Me→her only caregiver. I placed her in a SNF, but brought her home after 8 mo. While there she suffered a broken pelvis. Took over 81/2 wks to heal. A wk. Later, a broken wrist & found a massive bruise covering her entire forehead when I brushed her bangs back. Was never notified about the head injury. The bruising was already green & yellow. she's been home now for 6mo. Insurance doesn't civer respite care. Doesn't qualify for medicaid because she recieves $191.00 too much from ss. She can't afford to pay out of pocket. I can't work, she needs 24hr. Care & supervision. I took home healthcare classes to be certified to take care of her and I do, but don't get paid for it. The only relief I've gotten is two different times I had to go to the hospital for chest pains. Have been unable to follow up because there's no one to watch her. Everyday is an exausting struggle. Everone says i take extrodinary good care if her, but tell me I've aged ten yrs. The constant screaming & yelling has taken it's toll. This situation is destroying my marriage not to mention it's probly killing me literally. I absolutely feel like I have nowhere ir no one to turn to. I pray a lot
What does your husband think you should do about this?
Ya'll need to come together as a team and address this problem not only for your mom's care and safety, but also for your well being and the salvaging of your marriage.
You are not alone, but I hope your marriage does not become one more example of collateral damage from taking care of an aging parent. The only way that I can see to help your health and save your marriage is to turn the 24/7 care of your mother to the help in a nursing home who work 8 hour shifts.
Is there a facility besides the one that she left available to her? The number of accidents you describe does make me a bit uncomfortable, especially since no one mentioned the last one.
I hope that things fall together for you. The chest pains may be from anxiety, but they could be from your heart. I am sure it is feeling the stress being put on it. You need the help of a facility, so I hope you can find a good one and a way to pay for it.