Coming away feeling empty no matter how you try. Do you feel like this?

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Your heart feels empty. We only have one family. Seems like I just can't win in any situation. It hurts me so much that no one in my family will acknowledge me or even thank me for anything (my mother lives with me and needs assistance brother's don't help, no sister's). It just doesn't feel 'normal'... I work and try to live 'my' life, but can't get over the hurt of rejection. Does anyone else feel this kind of 'abandoned' hurt? I just can't get over it.

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Unfortunately Des, they are written in her will. She always says "I love everyone"... While they are 1000 miles aways (living 'their' lives)... and, I am a fly on the wall.
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Heart ,You cab GUARANTEE that your sibs wil be there when it comes time to read the will.Fight them,They deserve exact
ly what they gave.NOTHING
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So, how do you come to terms with knowing you'll never have the closeness with your mother (or ?) that you always tried so hard to have? Easy enough for someone to say just forget it and live your life, but it always stays with you.
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I sure will Heart2Heart!
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Oh, thank you for the super big hug Phiz!... Here's two of them back to you! Yes, now after a decade (really all my life before my mom moved by me), I'm truly exhausted from trying to be 'loved' and fit in with my stoic and nonexistent family... I'm like you I really do,want to run away (only I can't... Like you a bit)... There's no one that wants to help 'our' mother so I go day to day... I do have a great 4 day job by home that keeps me sane. I wish I had a wonderful son like you... You're so lucky... I can just imagine how difficult it must be with you husband... You are such a loving wife and person. The world needs more than you!.... .so, we'll just stay far away from the 'unfriendlys' (I like that word) and stay close to the friendlys. :) Keep you health... And smile... And keep me posted.... Xoxoxox!!!
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Heart2Heart - My mom had lung cancer and we took care of her throughout. She passed at our house. That was 24 years ago. I'm sorry about you're relationship with your mom. It has to hurt not to mention cause some ( or alot ) of anger. Do you ever feel like people other than family would treat you better? I do. My son is great, but the rest are mostly user friendly and alot of the times user NOT friendly. Our move is to be closer to my son but also to distance ourselves from the user unfriendlys. So hard to feel optomistic and hopeful though. My son just gave me a pep talk this a.m..My hhusband's Alzheimer's is getting harder to deal with, but I'm trying. So lonely. I'm sure you feel the loneliness too in your situation. Giving you a super big hug! Wish there were magic solutions.
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Funny you should say that Phizphiz... I have the opposite problem with my mother... Can't get her to support me or have a loving daughter/mother 'relationship'... She doesn't know how to hug, love (can't say "I love you", appreciate, the daughter that has done everything for 'her' the past 10 yrs... I'm trying to accept this, but she thinks my 'non-participant brothers' are the greatest because "they have a life"... (I haven't been 'myself' like you said since she's been her... nor has she ever stood up to me with my brother's and family... Now, my only nieces don't talk with me... babies have been born... and I literally have no family except her...) She makes me out to be the 'bad' person... exhausting!
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I sure hope so. Thanks Heart2Heart
I agree, it really is heartbreaking with my daughter. My mom and I were so close. I told my son once "Don't take this the wrong way , but you're the best daughter I could ever have! " Of course he laughed :)
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Phizphiz, I'm so glad you have a wonderful son. It's interesting how people can be so different even when you are related to them... no guarantees, eh? You've started a new process of change and that will be so good for you! Hang in there... sounds like your digging your way to a new found freedom and self!
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I am in the same situation taking care of my 70 year old husband. I'm 60 and have a 40 year old son with Williams syndrome at home. My other son who is 174 miles away is a wonderful help! We are in process of selling our house to move up near him. HE WANTS US CLOSER TO HIM! ! My daughter is No help. She lost custody of all 4 of our grandsons and is a very stressful person to be around. Friends disappear. Other family members avoid you ( unless they want something). Thank God for my son who is so supportive and helpful! I don't think I could go on if it wasn't for him. I'm so depressed and feeling alot of anger right now. Life feels like it's over. Don't feel like me at all. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's/FTD. I'm holding on by the skin of my teeth till we can move. I know it won't make everything go away, but will have my son nearby
Also know I don't want to over burden him. He's just a great comfort and we've always been very close. We are like the TWO muskateers
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