the decision and the aftermath for care givers and their loved ones. Am I still a care giver? Mom became ill a few months ago and ended up in hospital and rehab...now she is in the long term care section...This is very hard. Mom does not want to be there but I can not care for her anymore at home. Some days it is easier than others, but she tries all the manipulation she can to get me to take her home. This was a hard decision and every visit is dreaded on my way there. When things go well (not often recently) I am pleasantly surprised. Most of the time I want to just run out the door. This is a hard part of care giving, knowing whe you must step in and make the best decisons you can for your loved one. How have you coped with this?