Challenges faced by caregivers.

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What are the tough challenges can be expected for a new caregivers and what are the ways to overcome these challenges?


hi krayon,
first of all it's nice to see a male here, taking an interest in caring for a parent. it's unusual for a male relative to want to help out hands on.
i don't know how far along your mom is in the dementia process, my mother is early to mid stage, so maybe some of these comments won't help if your mom has progressed.

in the early stages it's all about helping out with normal functions of everyday living. like shopping, preparing meals, cleaning up. taking care of the home, in general, any maintenance that needs to be done around the house. washing clothes (they tend to have a hard time working any electronics). pretty much all the usual stuff any of us does to keep a household running smoothly.

what i would suggest, if you have the time, just go over to your parents home at first and simply spend time there, observing. believe it or not even just your physical presence is extremely helpful. i have often said, i wish someone would just come to this house and sit, while i do all the chores that need to be done.
people with dementia tend to get confused, ask a lot of questions, sometimes the same ones over and over. so it may be difficult for your father to get things accomplished, simple things, that used to take no time may be taking forever.

with her dressing and physical needs, it may be your father who does all of this for now; even though i am female i don't feel comfortable doing this for my mom.

i think if you just spend some time in the home it will become apparent where your skills can best be used to help out, whether it's picking up groceries, managing finances, cooking, yardwork, maintenance. the main thing is you're interested and want to help. a lot of people on here will probably suggest entertaining your mother, trying to stimulate her brain, get her interested in hobbies, mental activities. from my experience this isn't something it's possible to force on someone, but if she shows any interest, even if it's as simple as playing a card game, i would move that to the top of the priority list. trying to keep her mentally active is key to keeping her in the home as long as possible.
good advice dusty.
learn everything you can by reading online . between now and death from dementia , s**t is going to get real and change constantly which in itsself is unnerving as h*ll ..
delusional thinking, wild accusations , constant mistruths , paranoia , psychosis , and hallucinations ..
My grandma has dimentia, and whenever she repeats asking me stuff, I am fine with it, just answer her repeatedly, sometimes i tweak the answer to make he laugh. maybe there's a strong bond in me towards her that makes the differences.

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